Well... first of all, we are 5 months pregnant and I currently hold a protective order on my wife until the baby's due date in december caused by repeated violence and emotional distress. We are now going through a separation. She is diagnosed with anxiety issues and bi-polar syndrome. I also have ran a background check on her, discovering that she has a bit of a criminal record 4-6 years ago, including (2) DWI's, bribery to an officer, driving on a revoked license and over thousands of dollars owed to creditors. One month prior to the pregnancy she was out with her girls, and while intoxicated fell into a curb causing her to become hospitalized and her face looked like half hamburger meat leaving scars everywhere. She has drank a few times during the pregnancy but I cannot prove this. She is also still smoking those cigarettes hardcore. She has violated the protective order multiple times, but I am unsure whether to report it or not knowing this would cause substantial stress which in return would not be healthy for the baby whatsoever. I am worried that our baby will come out very small.. I've accepted this already in case it turns out to be true. I have proof of multiple suicide, adoption and abortion threats toward me. She has also said to me that she will just give me the baby when he comes so she would not have to look and be dusgusted by him reminding her of me everyday. She has moved a total of 5 times in the past year prior to us being married, has not held a job for longer than one month in over 5 years and doesn't seem like she cares about living with trash all around her house. Her family does not want anything to do with helping her out with the child and she has no means of transportation or employment currently. However, my family.. 2000 miles away from here, want me to fight for custody and bring the baby home, where they already have everything needed to care for the little one, including car seats, stroller, crib, diapers, family support/free daycare. How likely is it for fathers these days to be seen as the more responsible parent to care for their newborn? I understand breastfeeding is going to be healthier for the child and help the mother lose weight, but that is also why they have formula out there...being as expensive as it is, is not a problem for me. Please help. I don't have a lawyer right now due to the separation taking most of my funds, currently am taking on a second job to provide for this necessity though. Anyone out there experience anything similar?