Ex- Husband virbally abuses me

I often try to calmy talk to my ex-husband when need be (such as if I ask him if I can take 100 dollars out of our bank account), but he all of a sudden gets mad and he has called me names, like greedy. He has even called my adult daugther names. What kind of charges, if any, can I put on?

Why is there an ongoing relationship with your ex husband ( which would mean you are divorced and all property issues resolved), asking for money from someone you are divorced from ( which if you still have a joint accoubnt for some reason you wouldn't need his permission to take money) or having any type of interaction with him, especially since it is negative.

He has stated that if I need money from him, that I HAVE to ask him, which I don't know why since I me mentioned we have joint account. I often don't ask him since I think I should be able to withdraw cash when need be. And when I do, he gets mad because I didn't ask him. 

Since you are divorced why do you have a joint account?

In the divorce he said that the bank account would remain the same (under both of our names.)

Starr2005:

In the divorce he said that the bank account would remain the same (under both of our names.)

What do you mean "in the divorce"? In the decree or did he just tell you that?

Anyway, doesn't matter.

I suggested in another post that you close it out and send him his half.

Even if you do that and not comply with the decree he still gets his half and isn't damaged.

Why are you still being a doormat?

Unless the divorce order says otherwise--you don't need to ask his permission or even talk with him to access a joint account.  

And at a practical level for parites is dispute it makes no sense to maintan a joint account with more than $1.00 in it, if than much. .

Starr2005:

What kind of charges, if any, can I put on

None.  Here is what you have to realize.  You are no longer married to this man.  You do not need to talk to him or ask his permission to do anything.  If you truly still have a joint bank account, stop putting money in it and get your own.  If there are mutual finds in a joint account, take yours and open a new seperate account.  Do not listen to anything that he has to say, ignore him.  Name calling will not kill you, so ignore it.

If he is trying to control you, ignore him.  Your divorce was finalized so you are not married.  Don't worry about having the marriage annulled unless you are planning on getting remarried in the church.  If he wants to get remarried in the church, let him worry about it.

Simple.

I agree with everyone else, you need to take your portion of that account out and open an account in only your name. Then I would close or remove your name from the "joint" account.  There is absolutly no reason to keep financial ties to your X. 

What is the money in this account used for and who adds money to it? It's just very strainge to have this kind of situation.  It also allows him to in some way keep control over you which is not okay.