Does this story sound familar. I was executor over a family member estate when very similar events happened. Only the father lived in the child's house, but still the bank account of the father's was being drained as the father lay dying in the hospital.
How I and co-executors resolved the issue was to request funds be returned that had been withdrawn. We only received a portion back, so once the estate was all settled and ready for disbursment the child who had removed the funds, had the amount still in his possession calculated as part of his inheritance already received. The end result was that at disbursment time he received no money while all other beneficiaries received theirs.
In fact he still owed the estate a minimal amount, the beneficiaries chose to write it off. The other alternative would have been to go to court to recover the remaining outstanding funds, but for less then $2,000.00 it would cost you more to fight for it then what you would receive.
We did a consultation with a lawyer before disbursment, explained what had happened , as well, showing all bank documents etc. and he reviewed the information and confirmed that the funds were illegally taken and further confirmed that what we did above was perfectly legal.
He also advised that the individual could go to court after his share since he felt he did nothing wrong but that he would get hung out to dry as it clearly was theft and we had all the documentation to prove it.
The end result is the estate is closed and not a peep from the culprit.
As an executor you have to stand strong for what is right and legal, there is always someone who will try to bully and beat you down to get what they want. Executors must always do what the will states.