Divorce - Non-Custodial Parents

Emancipation

Karen31 — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 13:12:16 GMT

My son is 18 and full-time college student.. He is fed up with my ex’s stuff. He wants to file for emancipation. I am trying to talk him out of it because if he is emancipated that means he is on his own, no health insurance, I no longer have to pay for his medical bills, college and child support stops for him.. He told me that my ex told him that if he is emancipated that I will still be financially responsible for him and I would still have to pay for everything for him.

I want to know if this is true.. If he is emancipated, am I still legally financially responsible for him?

father has a 1 bedroom apartment

EAM10 — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 23:41:59 GMT

State Ohio

I am wondering if there are any rules or laws as far as children not having there own room (no privacy). The child is 6 and stays there with father, would sleep on sofa.

Thanks, Mother of many concerns

What are Child's Chances in Getting Custody

smartine — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:24:53 GMT

Hello,

My son has a 4 1/2 year old daughter that he is paying child support for. He was never married to the mother. She has had two more children by the time my granddaughter was just over 2 years old. They had an 'agreement' that he could see his daughter whenever he wants (except when she's mad at him). When my granddaughter was 2 1/2, she married a guy in the service (not the father of any of her other two) and she moved to California; we live in Ohio. That last for about 5 months and she came back to Ohio because of 'abuse'. Last year, the three children were left alone 'for a few minutes' while the mother and her sister went to the store and when they came back the police had been called and she now has charges of endangering children. She had a suspended sentence for good behavior for 1 year with a review which she never attended and now there is a capias out for her. She has been living house to house and recently was at her own mothers' in a not-so-good environment and she has given my granddaughter to my son to care for temporarily (no clothes, etc. just what was on her back), but she is still calling about child support whenever it is late. My son has been laid off from a temp job and has been unemployed for 9 months and I have been helping with this so his license doesn't get suspended. Should he go to CSEA, or a lawyer about custody? Please advise; we have to do something t ensure my granddaughter's well-being.

ANY ATTORNEYS WITH EXPERIENCE IN DEALING WITH A NARCISIST

msbetty — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 20:02:28 GMT

NCP looking for a VA family law attorney. There is a lot of history with my case.

Modifications

pajohnson — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:51:01 GMT

What is the best way for a Non-Custodial parent to modify the Child Visitation and the Child Support orders? My oldest child is now 18, I have 2 other daughters, ages 14 and 13, but I believe I have overpaid on my child support. I have tried to go through the State Child Support, but they state I am missing an order. I have had an attorney friend, who is not licensed here in Georgia, and he states that there is an order missing. As far as visitation, I see my daughters every other Saturday from 2pm - 6pm. I don't have the money to hire an attorney and my ex-husband's father in law is his attorney. What can I do???? Help please!!! I want to spend more time with

vistation denied

Becomingun — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 02:21:29 GMT

I just wanted a legal opinion on this. I am the non-custodial parent and I have vistation rights. My ex has denied it several times and has done so again this weekend. The only way he will let me see my son is if someone is there to supervise. This is NOT in the divorce paperwork... How do I combat this? And what would happen if I took my son home when he leaves him w/ someone to supervise our visit? Can he bring a cop to my house to get my son out?

what can i do here

momneedstoknow — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 20:54:08 GMT

i have a 12 year old daughter, who is in montana with her father, this last summer while having our visitation she informed me that she no longer wanted to be living with her dad. long story many reasons. i was also informed that they intended on pulling her from private christian school which i was never notified until after they made the decision to enroll her there in the first place) and home schooling her. i was not agreeable with this for several reasons.

needless to say she went back to montana and started public schooling, they are now after barely one quarter, calling me and the step monther informed me that she is going to home school my child because she is not doing well in school. this woman didnt get past the 10th grade and neither did my former husband, they have no business trying to educate my child. i am greatly opposed to this. my child is very unhappy and not herself, she told me she is going along with whatever they say so she doesnt get into trouble. i am very worried for my kiddo. and i need to find out my rights as a parent to keep her in school? and do i have grounds to amend the parenting plan and have her here with me?

she may be struggling now but that is because they are VERY religous and she does not live a normal life of a 12 year old. over the last 3 years they have basically kept me out of the loop on everything involving my daughter including sending pictures, making decisions for tori, not allowing her to use a cell i bought for her to communicate with me and many other examples.

what can i do here to make this right?

thanks

childsupport question

eddied313 — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:26:42 GMT

On October 23,2008 in Florida my son was taken out of the custody of his mother and placed with a non-family member without my permission.I live and have lived in Delaware County since 1997.On March 20,2009 he was placed in my brothers home in Florida.As of Oct 23,2008 I was not to pay any more child support (per Florida DOR)but it continued to accumulate.Feb 4,2009 I had to go to court in Media for child support and the judge found me in contempt because I tried to explain why I was not to pay any more support.He made me pay $5,000.00 or do 6 months in Delaware County Prison.I spent a week in the prison and had to pay the five grand.I work for a well known company,I have an wage attachment. I have been paying $165.36 a WEEK since I started working there in April.Florida DOR is saying I only have to pay $30.00 a Month for rears.And they have know idea where the $135.36 a week is going.They will not help me either.I received a copy of the wage attachment and it says they can not take more the 65% of my wage but they have been taking up 100% of my check.I also have two daughters that I take care of from another relationship.I was at media courthouse today and they will not tell me where all that extra money is at.I have copys of the cashed checks that were sent by my work to child support.I also have all my paystubs that show how much has been taken from me.My question is there a way to get my money back?

Unreimbursed Medical Expenses

dariversmama — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 14:00:06 GMT

Hello Everyone!

I am desperate, and was hopeing one of you might be able to answer my questions.

Before I go into depth of what my problem is ... You need to know what type of person I am dealing with. He is Bi-Polar (diagnosed), undiagnosed psychisophrenic, manipulative, contol freak.

1) He has evaded taxes for over 10yrs. Over 6 million dollars not filed (I reported him to the IRS - But IRS is slow to act)

2) Never submits a case information statement for proper child support calculations, and subsequently through his calculated misleading of the courts, forces me to pay more child support than required.

He won't file taxes as he believes he, and I should pay for my daughters full college expenses ... Thus with no tax information, she gets her Federal Student Loans dissaproved.

3) Won't let the my son who is 16 leave out of state to visit me for a couple of weeks in the summer.

4) schedules motorcycle races on the weekends I am scheduled to visit my son, therefore forcing me to be in proximety to him, and sharing my time with my son.

And the list goes on ... But here is the root of my current problem.

My Ex-Husband who is the custodial parent, of our children ages 16, and 21 continues to wield not only the children, but his health insurance policy against me like a weapon.

The health insurance wasn't an issue in the past as I was able to cover the children on mine, but due getting laid off, and now attending college full time as an adult learner my ex-husband had to pick them up on his policy over the last few years. Which the courts state I am responsible for 33% of un-reimbursed medical expenses.

He does not follow the rules, procedures, and policies outlined in his medical coverage. He doesn't get referrals, and then lets the bills sit on his counter until they go to collections. Then hands them all to me and says "Take care of it, or else you will get saddled with a 10K bill!" Then I have to jump through hoops to contact the insurance provider, and figure out what he did/didn't do and HOPE I can get it remediated before I have to pay a 10K bill, whereas I should only be paying the 33% of the $500.00 co pay?

He is also unwilling to make any effort of his own to resolve these bills, as he knows he can afford the whole bill out of his pocket change.

Can I be held accountable for his gross negligence? Considering he is ultimately responsible for following the procedures outlined in his, and the children's medical coverage?

Can I write him a letter stating that due to his gross negligence that I can not be held accountable for "yet another bill" that is exhorbitantly high due his miss-management of his policy, and failure to follow procedures? But I am willing to pay what I would normally be responsible for *IF* the insurance policy had paid the bill?

He also threatens that if I don't spend hours and hours and hours on the phone taking care of these issues that he will not let me see the kids at my next visitation, and that makes life extremely hard on me as I already have to drive 6 1/2 hours one way to see the kids.

I also believe he does this on purpouse as a way to punish me for leaving him.

Very Frustrated,

Carol

Court ordered medical coverage

wonderingminds — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 15:34:34 GMT

Ok, one would think you get divorce your problems are over.. nope they just being.. Anyway,

I am now facing another situation with my ex.. Right now my children are in college and since they got financial aid they did not need to use the college benefit I have for them. However, now spouse's work (oh they are on my spouses coverage because it is better coverage and cost less then my employer) has done an audit for eligible coverage for benefits which includes health and even the college benefit my daughter can use when she attends Rider which will be in Jan '10.

All that needs to be done for my kids to continue to use my address on their school records. This was explained to the kids and they know what is going on... Now my ex changed my daughter's address back,of course I changed it back to mine and writing a note to my ex what is what. I know my ex loves drama and causing problems and most likely ignore what is needed for my children just to make it difficult then cry I am in violation of the court order for not providing health coverage.

However, my divorce papers state I must provide health coverage, I get to use the college benefit and outlining how college should be paid. My concern/question is if my ex continues with the games and my kids lose their health coverage and not be eligible for the college benefit can my ex take me back to court for not providing health coverage?

See with the college benefit, I am not worried because something happens the kids will have to get loans to cover what that benefit would have covered.

Thanks!

Non custodial parent child suport

Joanne33 — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 03:37:36 GMT

My daugher lived with me for 10 years. This summer she went to live with her dad, we haven't been getting along so I agreed to the change. Her dad worked full time until 3 years ago, he now works 12 hours a week. His wife works full time as a computer programmer making very good money. They have two kids together. I have to pay him more child support then what he had to pay me since I work full time since I am a single mother. I know that my daughter's stepmother is not financially responsible for her but if they were not married my ex would be working and making more money. Is there anything I can do??

Now a Custodial Parent

mjed12 — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 23:46:03 GMT

I am now a custodial parent with my former wife as we agreed it was within our child's best interest and the State of NH promotes it. I have agreed to pay her child support as I did when I was a NCP, even though we share time, however is it fair for me to request that I pay a reduced amount now that I have childcare expenses and such. I basically took the child support calculator with my state and ran two numbers, one if she was paying me as the NCP, one if I continued to pay her as I do today. I took the difference and gave her a number. It came out to be 30.00 less than I pay now. Is it reasonable for me to ask for a reduction?

Seperated now for 5.5 months....

chicadee — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 21:23:00 GMT

Hello everyone! I am very new to all this jargon and I am hating it!! Anyways, I have a few questions for you all, with brief history:

We have done nothing legally, married 7 yrs. together 10 before that. All our finances are still together even though he moved out. He has had this gf since he left, kid's do not know about her. They are 12 and 10yrs.

1. Who pays for healthcare?

2. If a parent leaves the home and kid's with other parent does the parent who left have any parental rights without papers?

3. If he quits his job, can I still file for child support?

4. If I decide to file for divorce, will he be shunned for cheating? Will it work towards my advantage? Are emails, text considered proof?

5. If we are seperated for six+ months, is it considered legal seperation even though we have not filed any papers?

6. Can I apply for legal aid without legal documents? Will they go after him for any help I get?

Thanks for your time!!!!

Parental Alienation Syndrome

mom-of3 — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 03:48:38 GMT

I am in need of advice regarding PAS. I have been wondering why my relationship with my children has been decreasing since my divorce, so I started doing some research on PAS.

I have found that one of the three criteria is a decreasing relationship between the NCP and the children. I have looked back at our counseling records and am starting to document what has been happening for the past 10 + yrs.

I need any advice on what to do about this. I am single and barely have money to pay my support. Please help.

What should my husband do in this situation?

jessramirez21 — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 19:49:20 GMT

We had my step-son here for summer visitation. It was a wonderful visit up until the last 4 days. this past friday we gave SS a "going home" party at our house with all our friends...he fell asleep on the couch at the party with his eyeglasses in his pocket, needless to say, they broke...he called to tell his mom, and i don't know what she said to him but my SS was crying uncontrollably, locked himself in the bathroom and said he hates himself and was going to suffocate himself. I opened the door and asked him why was he talking like that and he said that his mom was going to beat him when he got back home, and then he proceeded to tell me that he never does anything right and anything that his mom doesnt like she beats him with a belt and either locks him in his room from the outside or in the basement from the outside. My husband doesn't know how to approach the subject with his ex-wife as she isn't the easiest person to talk to and he doesn't know what to do about this situation and SS metal state. We don't know what goes on in her house and are not informed about anything pertaining to SS, regarding school, medical, etc... I guess my question for my husband would be, What should he do with this information? Thank you!

minor child health coverage issue.

cbrnshuga — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 16:44:55 GMT

Hi There. I have a 16 yr old son that lives with his dad, who was granted physical custody of him when he was 4yrs old. However, I have him covered under my private insurance policy. He is also covered by his father's private policy, as well as medicaid. Well his father took him to the doctors. Apparently, there was an outstanding balance remaining. It just so happens that I'm attempting to buy a house, therefore I had pulled my credit reports and found this debt. So I called the doctor office to inquire. I expl that my son has 3 policies how is that he still has an outstanding balance and furthermore why was I not notified of this and yet It's on my credit report. The dr office stated that they were not made aware of the medicaid coverage and that they had sent out 5 letters to the address on file. long story, I found out that the phone # and address was for his father's residence. The only info he gave this office pertaining to me was my insurance policy # and my ssn. The dr office also told me that "the father" also signed an agreement that would make him responsible for any monies not recovered from insurance. Based on this, i'm attempting to send out a debt validation letter but before I do so, I would like to know if they come after me for this debt? Your replies are appreciated. By the way I live in NYS.

Possible medical neglect or (PCF) munchausen?

ladyarwen646 — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 22:23:00 GMT

This is a long post so thank you all for reading.

In 1998 My husband divorced his now ex-wife. He married her on the belief he fathered her child which he found out was not actually his after she was 4 years old. He decided to divorce her before he found out that the first child was not his and then discovered she was pregnant with his twin daughters.

While they were in the process of getting the divorce the twins were born so that in turn created a delay because they were born prematurely. As a result of the prematurity, one of the twins was chronically ill and spent a total of 5 months in the hospital after birth, she had a condition called chronic lung disease of prematurity or sometimes called bronchopulmonary displasia. After they were both released from the hospital my husband proceded with the divorce and it was finalized at the end of 1998. My husband represented himself during the divorce and his ex-wife asked the courts to not allow my husband to remove the twins from the county where they lived due to the illness of the twin who was on oxygen full time at the time. He was ordered in the divorce decree that he could have 8 hours of visitation every third Saturday of every month in the county where they resided. The ex-wife interpreted this visitation as supervised and made it clear that he would not take the twins out of her home unless she or her boyfriend came with them. The "s... visits" remained in affect until 2005, (when the twins were 8 years old) when we went to court to seek modification, because he concluded, by his own observations that the chronically ill twin was no longer as ill as she was when the decree was entered. The ex-wife, in 2005 again tried to use the sicknesses of the twin as an attempt to withhold proper visitation, and when the courts refused to keep the visitation the way she wanted it to remain she requested us to purchase expensive oxygen equipment and become certified in cpr and first aid for the over night visits. We complied with the orders and were finally able to spend time with the twins as it should have been from day one. She said things in court that were , in my opinion untrue and fabricated, she stated that the ill child weighed 36 pounds, had to drink pediasure (but the pediasure she supplied us with was 2 years expired), she stated that if she took her to any doctor she would be sent to the er because her lungs look so bad that if that doctor didn't know here medical history they would send her straight to the er. She also had an order in the court papers stating that she was the only one able to chose where the twins would receive medical care.

In the next few years i realized that this child is not sick at all, or as i have concluded anyway other than she was premature and needed oxygen for a few years, but i was not a doctor so i merely followed orders given to us by the ex-wife, and during those years even though I had suspissions I still trusted that the ex-wife would never do anything to endanger her child or have her on medications that were not needed. She has been taking numerous medications all of her life and I believe that her being very small for her age is a direct result of the inhalers and asthma medications she has been on, because her twin sister is about 1 foot taller and about 20 pounds heavier than she is.

Well in 2008 the ex-wife decided she wanted to move over 700 more miles away and gave my husband an hours notice on the relocation which opened a huge can of worms. Before they suddenly relocated they acted funny but we did not pinpoint it until they were gone and realized why they were acting they way they were acting on their last visit to our home before the move. We immediatly hired an attorney and gathered as much information on the health of the chronically ill twin because where she was taking them was at a higher altitude than where she was living at the time, and based on the fact that the ex wife said she could not move to that state when her sister moved 3 years ago because is was not healthy for the sick twin. We came to the conclusion by seeing most of her medical history that even though the ill child was still using oxygen there was not a doctor that prescribed it for her since 2005 and that doctor moved out of state in 2005 so realized she had not renewed her oxygen for 3 years. We also concluded that she had not been seeing a specialist for her conditions, even though she was still using the oxygen nightly, and everything we researched about her prematurity and need for oxygen said that some preemies will need oxygen but will be off oxygen by the 5th birthday at the LATEST. When my husband questioned her as to why she is still on the oxygen she could not give him answers and said things like "she's sleeping what the hell does she care?" We immediatly asked the judge to allow my husband to take the twin to a pulmonologist and he allowed us to do so. The pulmonologist said she could come off of oxygen but since she is now in another state he strongly recomends her to see a pulmonologist where she resides. That was in December of 2008 and she has not taken her back to any specialists since then. The pulmonologist also stated that she has scholosis (curvature of the spine) which could affect her lung function and she would need to see a specialist for that as well as a cardiologist for her heart during the weening off oxygen. We noticed since they suddenly moved they are acting distant from the entire family when they have arrived here for the spring break visit and for the summer visit, but after about a week here they act like themselves again. My husband questioned ex about the way they have been acting and she told him that they were acting like that at home too. He discussed that they need to be seen by a counselor and she agreed and said they were speaking with a school counselor. They went back home and my husband asked her again if she took them to see a counselor and she had not taken them since they had been back home.So for the second half of our summer visit we decided to take them in if she approved it. She said we could take them for counseling and we did when they got back here for the remainder of the summer. The counselor said that they are very over protective of their mom and they were suffering from mild cases of PAS.

We went back to court, on August 20th and the judge stated that she utulized the twins' health as a way to hold total control and deny proper visitation of the twins from day one. So basically he confirmed what we wanted him to see what was happening that she was keeping the twin on medications needlessly for the purposes of alienating them from my husband. He stated that she was allowed to move but she needed to seek counseling for herself and the twinseven though she told the court when questioned about their odd behaviors that they were acting normal, they were not acting unusual. He also told her that she needed to find a pulmonologist for the twin and take her every three months so that she could come off the oxygen and medications if not still needed. He said "you would feel differently if you were the one bearing the expenses of the medical equipment and medications"

I am absolutely floored that this judge recognized that she was abusing the twin but failed to change custody or to keep them closer to us to assure that she is seen by doctors that can assist her without her missing school. In the town where she moved the closest pediatric pulmonologist is 3 hours away. The closest cardiologist is 3 hours away the closest orthopedic specialist is 3 housrs away. If she is so concerned about their health and schooling why then did she not choose to move closer to us or to a town where they have all the specialists they may need readilly available? The twin also has skin problems that was diagnosed for her when she was 10 years old because her mother never bothered to take her even though she has had these problems since birth. I asked permission in 2007 to take her to a dermotalogist and she allowed me to. She has 2 types of skin conditions that the ex-wife has never mentioned to any of the doctors since she was diagnosed, as far as what i have seen in her medical records. The records state that she has eczema but not the conditions she has officially been diagnosed with. They also state that she is allergic to bees and adhesives, but as far as i know they have no allergies. I have asked the twin if she has ever had an asthma attack and she said she has never had an attack nor has never used her rescue inhaler, but the doctor's notes state that her mother stated that she sometimes uses the albuterol during pe at school.

There are many, many more discrepencies from what she has told us and what she has told the doctors,and it is really scaring me that this woman is absolutely needlessly claiming the daughter to be sick for some sort of alterior motive. I know for certain this is not munchausen, because she is neglecting to seek medical in some cases, lies to doctors in other cases, and over medicates her in other cases. This sounds more like PCF(pediatric condition falsification), and I know that she was collecting money for the twin from supplemental security income about $450.00 a month until sometime early in 2008 but she said that was lowered to $53.00 and she was also removed from medicaid program in 2008 due to her child support going up. This does not make sense because the twins' support was raised in 2005 in the amount of $1100.00. If you go back as far as you can go on her prescriptions you will see she paid nothing for any of her meds month after month, not even a copayment. We have asked the ex on many occasions to use my husband's insurance that he provides for the twins for prescriptions but she has always refused because she did not want to pay a copay for the meds when the copay is very minimal, $36.00 for 90 day supply for any medication. She chose to take advantage of medicaid which was provided to her supposedly "disabled" daughter. And on top of the small copay my husband would have had to reimburse her 87% of all medical costs.

With all this said and done we feel like the twins are being used and neglected, but have failed to get custody. I almost feel like we have no other choice but to call DHS and have a full medical review of her past medical records, because I don't think she should be able to lie to the children's doctors for any reason. This seems like abuse but I don't know if it qualifies as such or not. Does anyone know if this is considered as abuse or will this be looked at as something else that will not assure those girls go to a proper home where they will be taken care of properly?

She has as of yet not taken them to counseling nor has she made an attempt to take her to see another pulmonologist and it has been 8 days since the court ordered to do so. We called our attorney and asked him if ex does not take them in a timely manner what is the next step he replied that we will have to then call her attorney and tell her that her client has not complied with a court order and then allow her to then take them, then we asked if she still does not take them will that then be enough to change the judges mind for custody and he said no. I dont know what else to do about this and I am afraid if there is no attempt to get her off these medications she will soon stop growing because she has just started menstrating and she does not have much longer to grow. She is already below the 5th percentile for her age and she loses weight whenever she is at home for a long period of time. She always gains weight when she is here and she has told me that they hardly eat at home because there is not that much to eat there. This last summer visit the small twin went from 66 lbs to 73 lbs and the tall one went from 69 lbs to 79 lbs. The smaller one does not need to lose weight at all let alone 7 lbs.

Can someone tell me what we need to do?

What would DHS do if they are called to investigate? I dont want the twins to be traumatized by being pulled out of their home.

Will it be enough for custody if she has been doing what we have suspected?

iN NEED OF HELP FOR MY CHILDERN

chmk24 — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 16:33:29 GMT

Father has custody of our three childern in indiana and i live in New york with visitation. I found out yesterday that my childern where put in a foster home, because father got caught with 12 pounds of weed. The federal agents where invovled. My county has jurisdiction and all my court papers are through my county. I federal agents where invovled in this arrest. I am having a very difficult time dealing with the indiana child protective service down there, because this gental man Chuck is not willing to help me out at all. This guy is just lieing to me and telling my ex everything i am talking to him about and started a big mess between me and my ex. Chuck has told my ex that i will not get my childern back in my custody. I have already started cout papers here.

I have a clean back round and i also am a certified nurse through New York State. I need to know what steps to take to get my childern in my care child protective service will not put them in my care they are considering to put them in my ex's brothers house that i am not happy with. PLEASE help me..

Health Insurance ? in re: Non-Custodial parent

totravel01 — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 20:09:28 GMT

Can someone tell me if it is okay to have Title 19 (Medicaid) AND private health Insurance at the same time?

The mother (custodial parent) is responsible for health care under the stipulation, when she lost her job and let the kids go uninsured for 6 months, she finally called the father and told him he had to cover them, which he did. 2 months later the mother called back and said to drop coverage because she had gotten Title 19 (Medicaid) for the kids. Insurance cannot be dropped until the end of the year so the father is stuck paying for the insurance with his company when it is not needed. Can this be done? The amount of insurance was being deducted from her child support and she is all about the money, thats why she got Medicaid for them. She has been turned in for Fraud on this and they are investigating, it is just taking forever and no one other than her will know the results, so that is why I am checking to see if it is okay or not. I would think that it isn't if other health care was available.

Thanks for your help.

Can a divorce decree be amended 4 years later?

tlex — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 01:00:24 GMT

I am looking for advice regarding my husbands divorce decree which was settled in HI. They are now living in seperate states, CA (mother and child) and IL (my husband).

My husband contributed most of his salary to alimony for 3 years (such that he could not afford his own rent and had to live with family) and of course ongoing child support which is still automatically deducted from my huband's salary each month.

Back when my husband signed the decree, he agreed to make payments towards his son's college fund ($3000 a month) after the alimony was settled (payments ended last year).

His salary is quite low and we stuggle to get by on a monthly basis.

My husband's ex-wife recently raised the above agreement, and when my husband informed her that we simply can not make any additional contribution due to our financial situation (we also have another child on the way), she informed us she will have this enforced by a lawyer.

I was wondering if someone could help us out with where we stand. Can we have the terms of the decree reviewed based on our current financial situation? If so, how would we go about doing this now that we have relocated to different states?

Thanks for your help.

Phone Calls

s. dan — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 21:59:06 GMT

For 2 years now I have been calling my kids (joint custody) at my ex's every other night at 7pm (this is in the parenting agreement also). I have never missed-not one time-in 2 years. My ex just told me they are getting rid of their phone. I am current in my support and am paying that out of unemployment. I don't have the money to pay for a phone. Do I have any recourse? Since I am laid off I wanted to ask for a modification of support. Do I need an attorney for that?

Do I really have any rights in CA?

Promising Future — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 01:50:58 GMT

Two years ago I was awarded joint legal custody of my two boys & visitation every other weekend. The judge said reasonable phone conversations. I have been homeless for the last two years after that. I have been staying here & there but nothing stable. I have not pushed the issue of weekends because of no place to go with my boys.

My ex thru this time has let me have contact with my boys whenever he feels like it. They will not answer the phone when I call. He has moved two times. The first it took him 8 months to give me his new address & phone number because he didn't feel comfortable giving it to me.

Now he has just moved again & still I do not have new information. I have not paid child support because I lost my job, home and transportation in a week in 2007. That is when he started all of this. I haven't been able to come up since.

I read about that parental alienation syndrome & all the red flags are bursting out. He says that he has every right to keep my boys away from me because I haven't paid child support. He has changed his cell phone number. He knows that I don't have a home, a home phone, cell phone, and has halted all communication that just a few weeks ago was rolling just fine.

There is so much more. I really need help because I have missed out on so much of my boy's life. They are 13 & 14 years old. I am about to give up because I am tired of him telling me that they are better off without me and that his new wife is more of a mother to them than I ever was.

Someone please help. If you know of anyone you could direct me to. I am about to be swallowed by a blackhole.

Thank you - Promising Future (Not So Anymore)

Ex-wife trying to move kids 2000 miles away

Brat4300 — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 07:33:12 GMT

Ok so first of all... I live in Northern Idaho... Kids are 450 miles away in Southern Idaho. Ex is telling me she is moving to Michigan with the kids and has them somewhat snowballed to go with her. Kids are 15 and 11 (girl/boy).

Custody is joint with my ex having physical custody. Visitation has been whenever I can see them or afford to bring them up here. We have a visitation plan but in the 9 years we have been divorced, we have never really gone by it.

Normally we get along just fine and actually have a good relationship with each other but since she has announced she is planning to take my kids 2000 miles away that has gone south.

So I know that I probably need to get a lawyer and quick to get this headed off at the pass but I guess what I am looking for in here is any thoughts on how this whole thing might play out? I love my kids and dont want them to be 2000 miles away from both sets of grandparents, a handful of uncles and aunts and me.

If I get an injunction to stop her is that all there is to it? Is it as simple as filing that and then the court looks at it and tells her she cant leave with them? or is there more to it?

I see my kids too little as it is and if they are 2000 miles away I am afraid that I will see them even less. Any thoughts or comments would be very much appreciated.

Hey Lynnm new question please.

christopher2 — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 22:25:57 GMT

I have kind of come to grips with the fact that my ex is not beating the kids or abusing drugs/alcohol. Original decree says education is 50/50 so would I have the right to ask the school to call me if late or absent to/from school? Is there something that says excessive absenteeism can be brought up to the courts. Thanks!

Want children to live with us during school????!!!

christopher2 — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:40:58 GMT

Ok! My ex-wife and I are in a battle now for school with our oldest child. My current wife and I believe we are the more stable parents that they should live with during this time. She is the primary and I the secondary. Many issues (that would take an hour to discuss) we feel are factors that would prove us the more responsible choice. Since we are talking about school not our past marriage, what is a judge going to look at? For instance Mom and boyfriend are both Drop-outs( current wife and I graduates with college) Mom has no license and boyfriend is who she has to rely on for transportation. ( I am licensed/insured) the school at moms is nine miles away. (School for us 300ft out of front door) Our school most modern in county. No children her age at bus stop at moms. Many friends in our neighborhood. Moms school ranked one of worst according to state tests in our county and just about the oldest. My wife is a stay at home mother who cares for our one year old twins that the older kids are very attached to. ETC........ Any thoughts please.