Family Law/Divorce - CA

Community Property Law - Room to Negotiate?

LettyA — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:31:36 GMT

My husband and I have been separated for a month, and he has just told me he definitely wants a divorce after 12 years of marriage. I understand California community property law is basically 50/50 with exceptions being with gifts and property held before marriage.

My question is whether his debts (credit card in his name only) and my savings (in my name only) will have to be divided equally. He tells me he does not want any of my savings, nor for me to pay half of his debt, since he has incurred it. We don't have any joint assets (no property, cars, etc.) other than small electronics and furniture. We have no children. Will we have a say as to how the debts and assets are divided, or must we comply strictly with California's 50/50 division of assets and debts? I've always kept my savings separate from him due to his tendency to overspend. I would hate to lose half of it and inherit half his debt in a divorce.

Cannot serve restraining order to defendant

Mystikdame — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 05:48:52 GMT

What can be done if you need to serve someone documents regarding a restraining order and you do not know where to find the individual? He is able to find me, damage my property, vandalize my place of work, etc. but I have no idea where he stays.

Is there anything I can do?

How can I force her to pick her personal stuff left behind?

Chris2009 — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 18:42:51 GMT

Hi! We are seperated, and have marital agreement signed. She moved out 3 months ago, and the house is agreed to be mine. She still need to give me a list of things she wants and she does left 50+ cloths in the closet. How can enforce a deadline for her to come and to pick her stuff? Do I need to allow her to walk around when she comes? I really want the case to be closed ASAP, don't like to leave such a small open-end. Just forget to put a deadline in the agreement. So need some help and advice. Thanks in advance!

Do I call law enforcement?

caliparent — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:20:30 GMT

Divorced 5 years have 50/50 joint legal/physical of son, primary physical, joint legal of daughter.

Question:

We have language in the court order regarding vacations. It states " we may take vacations of up to 10 days 3 times per year with children" we must provide itinerary contact info etc. we must also give 30 days notice and it may not interfere with school or holiday schedule.

We also have language regarding additional parenting day (s) it states those days must be mutually agreed upon by both of us.

Ex emailed 30 days ago "requesting" a vacation day with our son for this sun. I advised I would check out my schedule to make sure I had no prior plans with my son. I did not have plans so I agreed that she could pick him up on the requested sunday at 10am (regular pick up time on weekends).

Now she is throwing a fit and trying to bully me into letting her pick him up at 9am as she requested in her first email. To me this is not a vacation she is just asking for an additional parenting day, in which I must agree to when/if she picks him up. Long story short, she says she has a right to pick him up at 9 as it is a vacation and she gave me notice. I say pound sand its my day, and I am being very reasonable in that I am allowing him to go on my day but at 10am.

She keeps insisting on 9 and I am continuing to say 10, now do I call law enforcement if she comes to my home at 9?

How to handle inappropriate behavior of fathers girlfriend

bjburness — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 06:55:00 GMT

My ex-husband are in the midst of our divorce and custody hearings.We currently have 50/50 custody, every other week. He has a girlfriend who was the object of his extramarital affair prior to our breakup. The Girlfriend was a friend of mine so I am fully aware of her character which I find is not someone I want my children to be in the care of. The issue I have is both the mediator and the Judge have reccomended but not enforced that he spend time with his girlfriend when it is not his week with the children. That reccomendation has been ignored. It is is in the order of the Judge that the father does not consume alcohol when the children are in his custody and for 24 hrs prior. One of my children have confirmed that he continues to drink and the she is drinking as well when around the children. She and her two children (3 yo boy, 7 yo girl) come down every weekend they are with their father (and sometimes during the week) and will stay for 3-4 days. It has been brought to my attention that they are being left in her care while he is gone and that she has taken on a parenting type role and enforcing dicipline. When asked to not dicipline my children I was told by her "If they didn't misbehave I wouldn't have to". It was brought to my attention today of the sleeping arrangements when they are all in the home. The father has a two bedroom apartment. One bedroom is for my oldest son (17) ( which he keeps himself locked up in when the girlfriend and her children are there) and my ex and the youngest (10) share the master bedroom. This room has one large bed and a smaller bed. It has come to my attention that My ex, his girlfriend, her son, her daughter and my 10yo son are sharing 1 bed. On occasion the three children will sleep in the larger bed and the two adults will share the smaller bed in that same room. I find this entire sleeping arrangement inappropriate and a possible problem for all parties involved. What is reccomended to prevent her from parenting my children and stopping her and her children from sleeping over when my children are staying there? It was suggested I obtain a restraining order but I don't know if I have the grounds to do so. Should this be handled with an " Order to show cause" and mediation?? Any advise would be much appreciated.

Out of State Dad with ? about Modification of CA order

Trama911 — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:58:34 GMT

This is kind of complicated, my ex and I were married and had a child in OR. We divorced in 1999 and she moved to CA, and I was paying support under the original OR order. After I moved back to NY, the case was terminated in OR, and transferred to CA where the child lives. I have been paying the same amount of child support for the past 6 years with no review that I was told would be done through the CA child support dept every 3 years. I have filed papers with them for modification twice and never received any correspondence. Phone calls to them go unanswered, or am forced to stay on hold for hours (long distance no less as their "toll-free" number does not work outside of CA) to speak with someone. The interstate liaison only has a voice menu of what to bring to your appt, and office hours and locations. No contact information. I have been unemployed due to a lay off since January of this year and they are taking half of my unemployment benefits. I tried applying for a modification in NY where they were enforcing the order but was informed that one state cannot modify the court order of another and I would have to file for a modification with the CA courts. Is there any suggestions of what other measures I can take? Or is my only recourse to find a lawyer?

CA Move away millitary

Dad75 — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 20:54:32 GMT

Hello, I am a father of the cutest little 5yr old boy. His mother and I got divorced when he was one. (I caught her in bed with my brother and for some reason I couldn’t get over it!!) The custody is Joint Legal and she has Physical. For the first three years I had him three weekends out of the month and any other time I could get out of work. For the last year I have taken a job that is 7 days on and 7 days off in near Santa Barbara, so I had him for 12-14 days a month. This year he started k so I only get him 4-6 days a month and I hate it! I live in Temecula and they live in San Diego. (Hour and some change apart) The original agreement was that she could move to SD to go to school and when she was done she would move back to Silver Lakes (the high desert is where we lived together and had our boy) so we could have 50/50. It was not court ordered but it was notarized. I have always paid CS and he is my world. I not involved with his school really, but I did go to his preschool graduation and pick him up every once in a while. I don't know if that makes me a bad father? We do go camping with the boat to the lake, river and take trips out to the desert to play in the dirt. I have a girlfriend of 4yrs and she has 3 kids from a previous marriage, we all live together and are a family.

So my ex gets married to a guy in the National Guard and they have 1 child and 1 on the way. He has been stationed in SD the last 7yrs and they have fought the last 2yrs to stay there because of our little boy and she is in nursing school. (I'm thinking more nursing school than me, because she only thinks of her self) So it's that time of year again and they are saying it is vary unlikely that he get to stay in SD. They said they had to argue with the military to just be able to stay in CA. So they said they might get Los Angeles, Sacramento, San Francisco, or Humboldt. She is saying if I don't want them to go 10hrs away and put me or my lil boy on a plane to see each other then he will get out of the military and go 6hrs away to Atascadero to live with her Dad until she is done with her school and can afford to live with her husband making $8 an hour. And have her family take care of the kids so she won’t have to pay childcare. In my opinion that is where she really wants to be. I know she did her research before telling me, I have found most of the information that she has told me online. For example; she will forfeit my child support so I would be able to come see him, that no judge will make them stay in the area with no form of income with 2 kids and 1 on the way. With me having a 7 and 7 work schedule and not being married. Is there any hope for getting 50/50 custody of my boy with out having to give up his and my current family and friends to move wherever they go?

Thank You

DIVORCE

roxy123 — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:02:08 GMT

I WOULD LIKE A DIVORCE. THE ONLY REASON I HAVEN'T PROCEEDED IS BECAUSE WE OWN A BUSINESS TOGETHER. I HAVE BEEN A STAY AT HOME MOM FOR 16 YEARS. I HAVE 3 CHILDREN AGES 16, 15 AND 9. MY HUSBAND AND I DECIDED TOGETHER THAT I WOULD STAY HOME AND RAISE THE CHILDREN. SO I HAVENT HAD THE LAST 16 YEARS TO FURTHER MY CAREER OR EVEN FUND MY SS BENEFITS. IN ANY CASE ABOUT 5 YEARS AGO I AQUIRED MY REAL ESTATE LICSENSE. I TRIED TO WORK PART TIME AROUND MY CHILDRENS SCHEDULES. OUR MARRIAGE FELL APART ABOUT 4 YEARS AGO. WE SOLD OUR HOME IN FV, PAID OFF ALL OUR DEBTS AND DIVIDED THE REMAINDER OF THE MONEY EQUALLY. I MOVED TO WINCHESTER WITH THE CHILDREN AND HAVE BEEN HERE SINCE. I DID HAVE A CONSULTATION WITH A LAWYER SHORTLY AFTER THE MOVE. I WA TOLD I WAS ENTITLED TO PART OF THE BUSINESS WHICH WAS DOING WELL AT THE TIME. I KNEW THAT MY SOON TO BE EX WOULD BE VERY UPSET WITH ME IF I TOUCHED THE BUSINESS SO I DID NOTHING. WELL HERE I AM 3 YEARS LATER AND THE BUSINESS WENT FROM MAKING 120K TO HE SAID MAYBE 40K THIS YEAR. I WANT A DIVORCE HOW SHOULD I PROCEED? HE WANTS TO USE LEGAL ZOOM AND HAVE ME SIGN FOR CHILD SUPPORT AND ALIMONY AND NOT TOUCH THE BUSINESS. I WANT A DIVORCE HOW SHOULD I PROCEED? SHOULD I JUST SIGN THE LEGAL ZOOM (ONLINE DIVORCE) PAPER WORK THAT HE HAS FILLED OUT OR SHOULD I SEEK COUNSEL?

Recovery of Quantum Meruit

MsFreeman — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 05:06:58 GMT

I just completed a bifuricted Nullity trial, nullity granted based upon fraud, and next month we go back for community property matters. I would like to request the quantum meruit, do i have to file a motion, or can I just request it at begining of trial?

Spousal Support

Fierce — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 20:39:09 GMT

Can someone help me figure out what to ask for (and what is fair) for spousal support. My husband and I have been together for 15 years and have been married for 12 years. We have 3 children together which he pays below guideline support of 1550.00 per month. We were both making really good money while together. Right now he is making 70K and I am on workers comp due to an injury at work. I am perminately retired from work and am getting about 30K.

I want to ask for 1/2 of his retirement and a good amount of spousal support. How do I figure this out?

Needing Help!!!

MaryJ1981 — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 16:16:26 GMT

Ok, here's my deal. I am a mother of 4 wonderful children ages 8, 6, 5, and 4. Their father and I have been separated since Jan 2006 and I had full custody of the children. He lives in CA and I live in ME. In December of 2008 I was going through a very hard time financially. The kids had missed their father terribly and I had talked to him about letting the kids stay with him for a year. He agreed to take them and said that it would only be a temporary situation. My oldest asked if they could stay until June of 2010 so that she could finish the school year, instead of coming to live with me in December of 2009. I had agreed since I understood that it was not fair for them to switch back and forth between schools. I am now doing much better financially and even got a 3 bedroom apartment that I am slowly furnishing from now until June. Just recently, however, my now ex-husband told me that he is not letting me have the kids back. I try to call to talk to the kids and he doesn't answer the phone. I am getting very frustrated with this because I used to talk to the kids at least every other day. I have a court order stating that he has legal custody and we have shared physical custody. Can he keep the kids from me? What do I have to do so that I can get them back in June? Should I try and get them back sooner, or let them stay to finish the school year? I am just so confused on what to do. I haven't seen my children in almost a year and I am going insane without being able to see them or even hear their voices! Please help me!!!

Family Law/Deposition Hearing

Givo — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 01:55:19 GMT

I moved to Florida in 10/08 from California with Kids the father decided not to see the kids as of 11/04 while we were living in California. Now that we are in Florida he has taken me to Court for Content to show cause for leaving the State I had sent him a certified letter stating that we were planning on moving give him the address and phone numbers of where we would be at but he never responded to the letter. I went to court on 10/23/09 in California, the Judge postponed it until 01/11/10, while in court my ex-husband's Lawyer served me with papers for a Deposition hearing on 11/06/09 in California. I am not able to fly back and forth due to money issues and my father is ill. That is why we moved here. I am looking to see if I can get help with either postponing the hearing or via phone. My kids have expressed no desire in visiting or seeing their father they are ages 17th & 15th. I need some kind of guidance.

Child custody under UCCJEA

vawa — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 19:29:04 GMT

Can California court order child custody in fathers favour if mother couldn't relpy for two years of filing divorce and child custody. The custody and divorce filed in 2008 in ca by abusive husband, whereas the child and mother were aboneded and sent to India by abusive husband.though he abondened us now he is falsely calaiming that i refusing to send her back to USA .But he filed it after two years of me and our daughter leaving to India and he only bought the air tickets to India with his credit card, after abusing us mentally and financially. But he sys after reaching India I refused to sent her back...again which is false because he never asked to meet her or call her or me back. Now though the mother sent the reply to dismiss the case or to let the husband pay for litigation, her visa and stay costs in America..the court did not acknowlede it.

what to expect. The child and mother r still in India and husband too who is Indian born , but now Usa citizen is in India and convicted for one year imprisonment and is in appeal. The Family court in Ca has no info about it, but the Child support case in Ca has all the updates.

Now what to expect regarding child custody filed under uccjea by husband in Jan 2008. can the court order him custody?

And if it does later can I challenge the family court since it did not acknowledge my reply through Indian Lawyers: that I did inform and sent all updates through my declarations in child support case in the CA court.

Child's grandmother threatening to take me to court

RickLira — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 06:31:19 GMT

Heres the deal, I live with my child and his mother but not as a couple. Recently the baby's grandmother has been threatening me that she is going to take me to court because I don't let the baby go to her house. Her house is filthy and very messy. The last time I released my son to her, I had to go pick him up becasue she decided to take off with her boyfriend hun ting and left my son with her younger daughter. Her daughter decided to go to a party with her boyfriend and my son(teenage party). So I worried and went to pick him up, His grandmother is now saying that she is going to take me to court next week. Is there anything I need to prepare myself for or anything I need to take with me to court?

child support claim

marcelo morais campos — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 03:17:33 GMT

hi ,

My name is marcelo campos and Im in brasil with my son Nicholas 13, whose full custody belongs to me ,for years and years i suported my son alone even thoguh i have his custody and his mom a yappie wannabe from vancouver does not help at all,now my finances are bad and i asked her for help with the basics for our son and one more time she turned him down, she earns more tham 80k a year i have proof of that ,it wouldnt hurt to pay at least for his snack at school or any other expenses ,instead she said she will only contribute if i give her full custody, the story is long ,please advise me about how and where I should file for child support after 9 years raising my son on my own

Wife is leaving the home for another man & emergency custody

nard — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 19:20:16 GMT

My wife has been having an affair for the last 2 months with someone from work. Ironically, she is a marriage and family therapist and so is he. She has been having sexual encounters with him during work hours when she is supposed to be at work. I'm so tempted to walk into her office and let her director know.

She will most likely leave the house but wants to comeback whenever to visit the kids. I'm compel to change the locks and not let her in. Can I leagally do that? Since she is leaving the home I want to petition for emergency custody of the children but dont know if that's possible.

She is talking about splitting time with the kids, but I dont want to split even a second. I'm not agreeing to anything in regards to splitting time with the kids unless asked to do so by a court.

What are my legal options? I've asked her that she can't continue to stay in the house if she is having a relationship and having sex with this other man. Honestly, I'm lost. Any advice would help.

Thank you.

CA DIV Pre-trial hearing: Actions to file need form info?

dad2mysons — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 17:24:49 GMT

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Please read my profile-then I need the form information (by# or title) on each action I need to file in court. I've seen all the general forms available for the Cal. O.C. Supreme court. But I'm still not sure on these specifically:

First Action-Request examination/copies of court documents (evidence) of all CPS/Soc Serv reports made since '05---these were accessed by the court investigator and used in the custody report.( A friend said he had a similar situation and filed to see what was in these and planned out his defense during his divorce.) I need to do this as there is questionable circumstances regarding the entity that initiated the first report because they were not a mandated reporter, so no one could have witnessed the allegations made that caused all this to begin with and this was found to be a "fact" by the CPS worker that interviewed me and I was told back then to petition the court for this report but didn't then and want it, and another 3 that were done against me by the same 2 people each time (my spouse and her mother) when I had custody but was NEVER informed by Soc Serv/CPS that they had received these.

Second Action-During a Custody Investigation my rights were denied as follows: 1-Was told on two occasions that I would receive a questionnaire to fill out prior to the meeting. After which the statements would be entered in the custody investigation as my testimony and this is stated in the final report as being a "right given by the court" to each parent to fulfill. But even after we determined twice that current address/email information was correct, I NEVER received one. 2-During the meeting I was told that I would be allowed "3 contacts" as character witnesses or to verify my testimony on custody concerns and they subsequently interviewed/contacted NONE. Then this investigator erroneously entered in the report as PERSONS INTERVIEWED, "a letter" I received from one of my contacts. When no such action took place and I was only showing them the letter to give them the correct address of that contact. 3-After receiving the report and contacting the court investigator supervisor within the 5 day window that was by the court rules that I disagreed with the certain entries as facts in the report, I initiated my "right to question the investigator on the stand in court in front of the Judge" and was told that I had to pay $135.00 for this before it could take place even after I asserted that this case was in process with the "fee waiver" accepted and enacted as signed by the Judge. I exclaimed it would be "denying me my right" and that was against the court rules as this was the process I was following and they just said "someone has to pay us" after which I was told sorry and "good luck". 4-The report totally made incorrect entries on dates when incidents took place, and these can be countered by the files that is in the DA's office who initially contacted my spouse and explained she "could not divorce me in another state that was not the home state of our children where custody was to be determined on" and this would be in addition to the Declaration I filed with all the facts and dates and incidents correctly stated and verified by Police Reports I made during these incidents after which I gave the court investigators a copy.

What I intend on asking for relief/sanctions on these is that they be corrected/removed according to what is found as the initial true facts regarding these.

I gave the detail because this is what I intend to file with the court to let the Judge hear that this is what in fact happened and what I am not seeing is what exact form should/could be used or made to be used to get this enacted upon. The detail was necessary to assure the correct information is given on the forms I need. (Sorry about the length)

If it's one of those forms you have to design yourself if you’re a paralegal or lawyer specializing in Family court issues, then I have to try it on my own as I have no money but I need to file this as soon as possible because I'm almost done with some court ordered actions that were on me to complete. After which they will start a custody determination which I intend to make the balance as even as possible with correctly asking for sanctions on this custody report and some other litigation that will remove some other actions against me. Both my spouse and I are Pro Se and I also intend on making the court aware that these certain actions were taken to stop me from any future custody with my children. And all these "actions against my spouse and I" was instigated from my mother-in-law throughout our entire relationship just because my spouse had a son from a prior relationship where the father left and never wanted any part of his son and me finding her and him and starting a serious relationship that would take away her caring for her daughter and her grandson caused this enormous rift that was in the end what ended our relationship after 2 more children and 15 years of marriage. So---could someone help me on this and this will be my one and only request? Thanks.

Small Claims for Judgement?

XiaominJerry — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 22:37:21 GMT

Hi...

Just a quick question. If I have a judgement that says my ex has to pay me X amount of dollars, and she just flat out refuses, can I file in small claims court against her?

Thanks,
Jerry & Xiaomin

Can bankruptcy bail you out from paying?

Mark07 — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 03:12:28 GMT

I just got my divorce finalized and I won a judgment. Can my ex file for bankruptcy and get bailed out from paying me? Is there any options to prevent them from doing so? Thanks

Doctor/Patient Privilege

MsFreeman — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 19:55:12 GMT

I was in attendance with my husband during psychotherapist sessions, and I seeking to the use a letter from the therapist and my testimony during these in my annulment case to prove his medical condition, however the Judge has said because I was his wife I at the time of the session, I am under the doctor/patient privilege clause, and I cannot use it. Is that correct, and what is my challenge to the court, to use the information in court? I was not the patient

DCSS and their Dastardly Deeds

InPropriaPersona — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 01:45:12 GMT

Once again the over-armed and under-informed DCSS rears its ugly head. I learned today that DCSS is claiming that I owe nearly $3000 in overdue support for which they have issued a demand for the release of the lien that they have placed on my house which is being sold by court order. Where they found such a number I have no clue and they certainly have not produced any such number in the various monthly accounting statements mailed to me. But as I learned earlier this year, when they siezed a portion of my tax refund, they are well armed with an array of extra-judicial powers (would you give a child a sack of hand grenades or a machine gun? then why give confiscatory powers to an organization that can't hire competent accountants?).

But I digress ....

Once before I faced their attorneys in court and thought that after going through the process of a judicial accounting this problem was resolved. Well, I knew that they would continue their improper monthly accounting scheme, which combined with my biweekly wage assignment, leads mathematically to a shortage every 5 of 6 months (which accounted for the automatic confiscation of about $200 of my tax refund ... which I was told would be return to me upon my child's emancipation!) but that could in no way produce such a large lien demand. The maximum shortage under their default accounting scheme is only one half of one month's support payment. And in this case, that maximum is already reduced by a further $200 that they have already seized.

What to do? Submit an ex parte motion for injunctive relief pending an order to show cause? Punitive damages should really be awarded. Anyone who seizes a chunk of your house should really have their numbers in order. This is inexcusible.

Previously I succeeded in obtaining a stay of enforcement pending the outcome of the aforementioned determination of arrearage (or lack there of).

college cost after child support ends

alni — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 17:30:24 GMT

my son is turning 18 and is in 12th grade. his dad and i were never married. we never had a formal agreement but he has been paying every month since our son was 3 years old. i have sent him to private school and he is an outstanding student. i have paid for braces, healthcare....and he lived 100% with me. i was told by his father if i would not take him to court to get more money he would pay for some of the college costs. i believed him, but now he is telling me he will not pay a dime since our son has not visited him and so on... they do not have a relationship even so i tried to make it happen it did not. i am remarried for 10 years. i have counted on his dad to pay some of the costs for college. do i have any rights? does he need to pay anything?? he has two degrees and always expected for his son to go to college. now he changed his mind! any suggestions?

Locked out of residence, need support

mollywog — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:39:55 GMT

My husband locked me out of our main home (we own a second one also). Police report filed, pics of locks on gates, etc. He went against court orders. I was told to move out of area for saftey which I have done but am burdeoned with now paying rent.

What equation can be used to base support on for me? I am being old that the equation is 50/50 split on current market rental of home locked out of and 50/50 split on rental income from second home(only portion of home is rent, he uses the rest(master bd/ba)) minus my 50% share of any communtiy debts he paid. It would seem that this is very unfair as the burdeon of rent is soley laid on me.

The divorce settlement talks have been ongoing since July 2008. I am still locked out of all properties and have no access to any community funds. I have asked my atty to file for a court trial and have been told he would do so, only to still be in settlement talks currently.

Need help. thank you.

Restaining Order

purr — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:52:52 GMT

What is the procedure on obtaining a restraining order. And what are the requirements. My understand is from years ago when I received one when I divorced my ex. It was you pay, get a temporary restraining order and then have to go to court to get a permanent one. Could someone please tell me because my husband has a woman who will not leave him alone.

Child Custody Tn, Please Help!!!! Not seen my kids in year!!

help me please1976 — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 18:16:52 GMT

I'm a mother of two wonderful children who up till One year ago had joint custody with thier father. One year ago he decided to go a and file a emergency custody junction against me..It started that he said my son had reported to his school principal that we were living in a vehicle. ( which wasn't at all true). He then was able to keep the kids when i went to pick them up that week. I couldn't believe it he had never tried to do anything like this, I was told that there was an Restraining Order keeping me from seeing my children. I was told that I couldn't contact them or see them at all. They had set the court date for two weeks away. We then went to court and the judge said until he sorts out the details I would get to have my children every other weekend which I didn't like but it was better that nothing at all. He then set a court date for one month from that day. I was supposed to pick up my kids after school and we were planning on going to a halloween party. When I got to the school I was greeted in the front of the school in my car in the main line for every student that was picked up there, by a police officer which made me sit there while she read me 4 order of Protection orders 2 for each child for me and my husband. I really was mad then, It was NO CONTACT Orders... they were saying that my present husband had touched my daughters *** and that I had beat both children with a belt buckle. He of course didn't have any proof but did this stop this from happening NO!!! I was outragged!!! So I then waited on the court date again which they still kept it a no contact order. I live in a small town in TN but that is how it works..I have always been a great mother to my children and I'm very outragged about this... I have been through two attorneys and now honestly I'm out of money 6000.00 I could have had raising my chilren that now I can't. And Im not downing all attorneys because I know there is some great ones out there I just haven't had good luck yet. The only thing that burns me is my ex's Attorney is the local city judge 5 min from the county he represents my ex in which where he is the judge and where my court is there the same county..What is wrong with this picture, am I supposed to believe that 2 judges that work in the same county are going to be able to be impartial with one another. I have been going through this for the last year and I still have not spoken to my kids yet. One other thing an investigation was opened through DCS , which was dropped after the first time they (DCS) spoke with my husband and I. They said there was no evidence of abuse..So why can I still not have visitation with my kids??? I need answer can anyone help....Thank you for taking time to read this...