Laymans take--and a few IEP's under my belt and a few due process hearings as well:
The issue really boils down to what is written in the current IEP--
Usually schools try to write pure bull into IEPs and most parents don't know otherwise--BUT if the IEP has words to effect that child needs additional time as you post then that is the relevant scorecard---
The teacher is flat out professionally out to lunch --the child need not advocate for himself--he already has--by the precise rules of the game--and that's the IEP
I think there is NO resolution to address in your context--the teacher flat out MUST provide the extended time to complete the assignments. Her policies simply do NOT matter in context of IEP.
Even if the IEP contains absurd stuff --and some around me do, like-kid gets a 65 merely for showing up and what he earns is ADDED --that must be followed --and yes that means kid gets a 95 if he get a 20 on an exam! Personally I think we need to do away with IEP and NCLB --but for now that is NOT the case and the law says school MUST deliver the IEP!!!
The more this teacher sounds off with such views the stronger your claims that school willfully violated the IEP!
Be sure to keep copies and logs of all this dribble for teacher.
Its NOT you duty to convince teacher to follow the IEP--its management duty to get it done!
For a teacher to refuse to address an IEP is probably a matter for invoking the disciplinary process--and could be interpreted as willful and persistent negligence --which is cause to fire a tenured teacher in my state anyway!
Personally I think you want to be in the Director of Special Eds office Monday morning with very demanding requests for written answers that day !
1. Precise response to exactly when the requirement for child to have extra time to complete missing homework will be honored as per IEP
2. Submit a formal request for a due process hearing if you do not get a written answer by end on day, Monday.
3. It doesn't make a tinkers dam if school is over, the IEP must be honored--so the teacher canstaty around to accept the homework or wahtever--don't let them cop out by whitewashing missing work--do it, turn it in , and if SOP is that it is graded, teacher MUST grade it!
4. Personally I think you want to ask Director of special ed if its his or her practice to condone unprofessional conduct among teacher and just what her or she intends to do about it! (You won't get answers--but let her feel the heat!)
5. It is extremely expensive for districts to hold formal due process hearings--keep that in mind--either you get solid responses MONDAY or you fire a formal salvo !
6 Why waste your time to discuss with a team how to cure their failures --and have htem put the be nice squeeze on you of how much we love your son and how hard he tries.
7. Does not matter if your son is the laziest rock ever to fall off the pile--the IEP is the scorecard!