In 2006 a Final Judgement for Paternity gave my ex, the father, full custody. The judgement was very detailed as we are a high conflict couple. It included we have equal parental rights including in medical, school and other activities. This year my 12 year old daughter started jr. high school and my 5 year old started kindergarden. I (the mother) pay child support and have every other weekend visitations beggining Thursday at 6pm to the comencement fo school Monday morning and Wednesday on the non visitation week from 6pm to the comencement of school Thursday morning.
Recently my ex filed for an up modification on child support. On the same day, since I was already at the court house, I filed for a restraining order as when I have tried to drop off or pick up the children at his home he would get violent, raising his fists and cursing. Restraining order was denied and a permanent injunction was approved. In it states he can not come within so many feet and we can only communicate through email and phone text and that the drop off/ pickup location be changed to a 24 hour police substation.
I recently contacted the school to set up a parent teacher conference with both schools for my children. He was contacted and informed of this. He them emailed me, as well as sent a certified letter to my home and work place stating the same thing. He has stated in these letters I have no business being near their school, that I am a treat to him and the children, and he has copies of letters I've written to the school slandering him (No such thing took place, I simply called the school). I feel this is harrassment contacting me everywhere I go.
Also, he is not conforming to what my court order says. He is continuously dropping the children off at 630pm rather than 6pm and due to the fact he does not want me near the school he is requesting I drop off the children back off Friday morning and Monday morning back at the substation rather than straight to school. Being the children are initially dropped off without their bookbags and uniforms I feel I have no choice but to conform to his requests. I have birthday visitation with my daughter sunday (the day before from 530pm to 8pm) he is requesting and stating his court papers say 630 to 9pm. My parents suggest I go with it for now until a modification to judgement of paternity is set, although I really did not want to drop off so late (9pm) when I live 30 minutes away and work in the morning along with getting a two year old to daycare on time.
I feel stressed over all of this and dont know what to do.