My ex-husband and I were married 17 years and have two kids, ages 16 and 14. The kids attend a five-day boarding school in western Pennsylvania, but they were born and reared in Ohio, I live in Ohio, and my home is listed as their legal residence, though we share custody. Our agreement states correctly that my home having been named as their legal residence does not affect the fact that my ex and I are 50/50 as far as a) spending time with the kids and b) childrearing decisions. My ex and his new wife of seven months live in western PA now as well.
My ex and I were recently discussing our son having permission to go off-campus after classes at the aforementioned five-day boarding high school in western PA. I had come up with what I thought was a good approach--for weeks when my ex is "in charge," our 16-year old son has to call him to get permission to go off-campus every time he wants to go (to the movies, a restaurant, etc.). When I'm "in charge," our son has to call me. If I'm not reachable by phone, our son has to call my ex for permission and vice versa. My ex agreed to this, calling my idea in an e-mail "a perfect compromise." He then called me that night saying that if he weren't at home, he wanted his new wife to be able to grant permission for our son to go off-campus.
There's the background. My question is this. Does the stepmother, who is NOT an adoptive parent, have any legal right to grant, either verbally or in writing, any permission for ANYTHING having to do with our kids? I don't know how much this would differ from state-to-state, but our shared parenting agreement, divorce, etc. were all filed in Ohio. I still live in Ohio, the kids' legal residence is Ohio, and my ex and the stepmother live in Pennsylvania.
Many thanks for any enlightenment you can provide!