I am in a tricky situation. Legally me and my ex are still married because I can't afford a lawyer yet. We have a 4 yr old daughter whom he has made no contact with for 2 years. He has not called, written, e-mailed, nothing. I've read that some states have laws pertaining to child abandonment, and he could lose his rights since he chooses to have no contact.
I live in Indiana and he lives in Illinois. We were married and lived in Indiana during the course of our relationship. Even though we are not divorced yet, is it possible for me to get his rights revoked as far as our daughter is concerned? If he was a decent person I would let it go, but after I left him I found out that he was arrested for sexual assault on a minor (who was also his cousin - she was 8 yrs old at the time), and he's also raped other girls in his family. I do have some of these family members on my side willing to share their stories, but unfortunately his cousin was told that too much time had passed since her rape so she couldn't file formal charges (about 10 years had passed by the time she had the courage to tell someone - even though she was only 8 when the incident ocurred). He was supposed to attend counseling but never did.
I am afraid to have my daughter around him and his immediate family, who covered up for his actions over the years. They knew he had raped these girls and were even there on some occassions, but chose to lie and cover for him. I don't care about receiving any child support from him, I just want him out of my life so my daughter and I can move on. I'm really not sure of the best route to take here.
Since it has been years since his last contact (which I initiated), can his rights be revoked? I can't remarry and have someone willing to adopt my daughter since I am still legally married to this monster! Please help!