Since your company is too small to have to comply with FMLA they are not required to give you the time off. Some small employers opt to extend FMLA benefits to their employees even if they are not legally required to do so. Yours is not one of them unfortunately.
but when i asked for 1 unpaid day off for a long weekend away, i was told absolutely not.....not a single day would be taken the rest of the year. this occured at the beginning of the year so i am not sure if how this is being handled is correct?
Unfortunately it is legal. While they could count it as FMLA they do not legally have to due to the size of the company. While they have been generous to give you the unpaid time off up until now, legally they are not required to extend any more time or hold your job for you.
Hopefully you will not need to take any more time or will be able to make other arrangements.
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