I've had a lawyer through out this whole ordeal. I now have over 70 text messages, 10+ voicemails and over 30 minutes of recorded conversations with her. All explaining the reasons why I am in the predicament I'm in. "Answer your phone or I'll come find you!", "I dont care about some stupid DANCO!", etc...etc. I never wanted to buy her a ring but I do want to see my boys without incident and I would like my house and possessions still in one piece when I return to claim them.
As for insurance, I went to my provider and merely inquired about placing her other 2 kids on my family plan. My provider informed me that foster parents do it all the time, it wasnt more expensive to add them to my plan since I already had the best one so I did. If she were to do it on her plan her monthly payments would go up by $150.
I figure right now I am paying double the amount I need to be paying as far as child support goes. I've tried to negotiate w/o the courts or lawyers but it has gone no where. She wants my house and one of my vehicles, the kids insured, and all bills associated with the house and my boys paid for. I offered the 1st three but she cannot afford to pay any bills and feels she doesnt need to have a job since she has never held one. I see this situation going from bad to worse but I dont want to put the kids through anything I went through when my parents divorced.