I am not a divorce lawyer, but I have been through 2 divorces.
I know one thing is for certain, divorces take time and money.
You can want it all settled as soon as possible, but that time frame is likely longer than you want.
I'm not even sure what you think further legal action you think you could do.
As far as I know, if he spent marital assets while you were married, there's nothing you are forgiving. He likely had a legal right to do it. Morally, I agree with you, but it's part of being married.
It's very unlikely that he can refinance the house in 30 days. I refinanced my house and it took several months to complete and I filled out every paper and was available the entire time. Banks aren't always quick about things.
I have no clue what felony complaints you have. Why didn't you already talk to the police about it? Why are you waiting and using that as leverage?
I seriously doubt you can "force" this to closure. My first divorce took me over 6 years to complete. My ex would not agree to much of anything.
My 2nd divorce, my now ex wife's lawyer took months to respond to any requests at all.
Here is MY advise when it comes to a divorce. LET YOUR LAWYER HANDLE IT!
Don't talk to your spouse, and don't get into this so emotionally. He spent this money and did this that or the other is just how divorces are.
I learned and have told my lawyer during my divorce to just handle it, and unless I REALLY need to know about something, don't even tell me. It only upsets me for no reason.
That's how I get through a divorce. You are paying a lawyer to handle it, let him/her do their job. I wouldn't even be talking to my soon to be ex right now if you are in fact doing that. And why you are posting all these demands to strangers on the internet, who have no clue if that would be a fair deal or not, I'm not sure?
Talk to your lawyer about all of this if you have not already.