Okay, here's my story. Married for 9 years, and have now been separated for 3 years and 2 months. Ex-wife has always refused to work, and will come up with reasons that she can't. I have a good job, but only had this job for the last year of our marriage before she left. At that time we were only paying back debt with my income instead of gaining assets, or leading an extravagant life. Now, I have been responsible to pay her both child support, and spousal support based on my annually increasing income, while she now "goes to school", claiming she's going to become a doctor which will never happen as she will quit before that happens.
I also have the children 50% of the time. I am paying her $1400 child support per month, and $1700 in spousal support. She is fighting for more, and a further 3 years of spousal support but is now living with a partner that makes even more money than me.
How is it possible that I can be responsible for spousal support going forward for that amount of time? Can I just stop paying spousal and continue to pay child support? If I do so, is it possible to have my wages garnished? It is ridiculous that I can still be responsible while she is with a new partner. She is leading a much more extravagant lifestyle than me, yet I am expected to pay?
I feel like I should just stop paying spousal, and let the battle begin, but what would the outcome of this be?
I have no issue paying my child support. But the spousal aspect drives me crazy. I can't be responsible for this grown woman for 6-7 years after the marriage break up, while she has a new partner and they live half off of me.