~16yo had incredible relationship with NCP until 2007.
-2006, 16yo requested CP to live with NCP & sibling. CP was enraged, 16yo dropped idea, and nothing ensued in court.
-2007, 16yo requested to live with NCP again & refused to return during summer, citing alcoholism of other parent, serious threats from previous request to live with NCP, paranoia and extreme personal stress etc.
-CP filed termination of out of state visitation papers against NCP day after telephone call from NCP to discuss possible change of custody & concerns raised by 16yo. 16yo stopped all communications with NCP immediately after.
-2008, judge heard case, spoke to 16yo in chambers with attorneys and issued a 'work it out' timeframe.
At status hearing, 16yo has yet to communicate with NCP & had not pursued summer visitation. 16yo is showing NO intention on continuing relationship with NCP, stepparent or sibling.
1- Why is the 16yo acting this way?
2- Should NCP continue to send letters, texts, voicemails and messages in the hopes that someday they will be reciprocated?
3- Should the NCP request from the judge that 16yo undergo counseling or force the 16yo to speak up as to WHY this is happening?
4- Should NCP stop all communication attempts and give the child their space?
FYI- The CP will not discuss the matter with NCP because 18yo (who lives with NCP) refuses to speak with CP. NCP & 18yo feel the 16yo's lack of communication is solely fueled & encouraged by CP's resentment against 18yo.
4- When your extended family has completely fallen apart this late in the game (teens), is there hope to fix it? (18yo is off to the military and won't be around. 16yo is clearly happy, doing well in school, lots of friends living with CP and shows NO desire to continue relationship with NCP or sibling. CP is smug and NCP is heartbroken. The step-parents are on the sidelines going..WTH? (but they don't communicate effectively either.) :(
Trying not to give TOO many details because I can imagine the CP writing on a board like this too.