In theory spousal support should be sex neutral --but theory is far from perfect --but there is a point for long term alimony when one greatly out earns the other especially with a long term marriage.
Question--what degree do you seek-how long--and does it likely have a big impact on your future earnings capacity....?
There might be a point as to equitable short term support to get that step finished--I simply don't know.
You might be smart to get some totally silent totally personal legal input (good divorce lawyer -pay for it!) as to your options !
If she has a much bigger pension plan its not an asset to ignore!
And college costs may be no fun to address---