Im sorta going though something right now and need some help. My kids mother and I have 2 kids together. We are no longer together and havent been for 6+ years. We have never had a custody or visitation order. But I think its time to. Long story short for 10 years I have been playing this same song and dance. Where Ill get them on my weekends then she will get in a mood or get upset at me for some reason then I go weeks sometimes months without seeing my kids. And in between that time I spend it walking on egg shells so I don't rock the boat and end up not getting them on my weekends. Her familes activities and things always trump mine. Last weekend was my oldests birthday and was suppose to be my weekend. I simply got a text saying they weren't coming because the decided to throw a birthday party. I just want to see my kids on a regularly scheduled agreement without having to jump though hoops just to see them.
Recently I was laid off for an unemployment was exhausted before I found something full time. So Im a few months behind 5 to be exact. Something Im not proud of and have always done what I can to fulfill my obligation. I know I'm behind but would I still have a leg to stand on if I tried to go for joint custody and court ordered visitation?
All I want to do is spend time with my kids on my weekends (more if I could), not when it works for her or she is in the mood to let me. What are the odds of being able to get a joint custody arrangement? I'm not looking to take the kids away or point her out to be a bad mother. Just something court ordered and concequences if its not followed though. I rarely miss a weekend when Im able to see them, I also lobby for extra days or times when she has something going on and needs me to take them.
Before it makes me sound like all a "Saint" or something. Our time together was not good. Fights some times physical fights something I'm not proud of and nothing or no one to blame but me. Ive moved on from that person. Matter of fact my wife and I now have a great relationship. I just want the time I feel I deserve and tired of not being important.
QUESTIONS FOR THOSE THAT DONT WANT TO READ ALL THE ABOVE!
Is it difficult to obtain joint custody?
Is there anything different between joint and Full?
Does being behind in CS effect my chances?
While the process is going will I get to see my kids? Like a tempory visitatation?
Do I have anything to lose?