Tomorrow I have a hearing for a restraining order against my ex-girlfriend. There is currently a TRO in place which expires with this hearing. I would really like to not go, in which case the order will just be dismissed.
However, there is some information that I want to get to my ex regarding a criminal case where she is the alleged victim and I am the alleged perpetrator. It is the exact same information that would come out in the hearing, but I simply don't want to put something on her record and do further damage to our relationship down the line.
We're unfortunately both stuck in this adversarial system when neither of us wanted to be. Essentially she used the legal system abusively with a false complaint. I don't want to press charges, because I think the real problem in the issue is the very poor way the state handles reports. I also have several reasons to believe she had no idea how the state would handle her actions.
The problem is that because there's a criminal case going on, I'm not suppose to contact her in any way until after the case is resolved. (This is ordered by a lower court than the one we'll be in tomorrow).
Would it be safe for me to go tomorrow, find her attorney before the hearing, and hand what I'd like her to see to the attorney? And then leave before the hearing commences? Or would this likely be seen as a violation that could get me charged with "contempt" of court orders?