Kath wrote: "Bet he could get the time off if it was for HIS pleasure; people take vacation days, sick days, etc." So Kath, you are telling me that isn't judgment?
Unfortunately, we hear that alot - parents who can't bother with their children, citing the job, but then manage to get off when they choose. Judges hear that a lot, too. Though you may interpret it as judgmental, it is a warning so that dad doesn't fall into that trap...best to see it as such, rather than get defensive.
It is responses like yours that make people like me not want to come to any forums seeking advice. And FYI, no, he can't take off vacation or anything for at least 6 months.
Again, that info that he is a NEW employee was NOT mentioned until questioned (then the responses called judgmental because the info was not available!); most prefer to take a vacation day rather than tell employers about embarassing court cases. However, he must go unless the court offers exceptions...and his employer is obligated to let him. It's not optional unless the court says it is.
Sorry you've taken offense, but this knowledge should help you whether you realize yet or not. Personally, I'd give the creep $25 rather than risk a judgment on my record over this. We can't really say what the evidence is, but if there is ANY damage at all, he is likely to win, but for probably very little.
This is the reason many lawyers advise people to settle out of court if they can, esp over so little. But when you make it personal.....everyone wants to be "right". Frankly, if these people are just as off their rocker over nothing as you indicate, why get down in the mud with them? If they have mental issues, give them a few go-away bucks. I wouldn't go down to their level, not worth it.