my ex in retaliation, locked me out and stole all everything

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  • 05-07-2012 10:32 AM

    Sad [:(] my ex in retaliation, locked me out and stole all everything

     

    After so many years tolerating my girlfriends everyday abuse and controlling demeanor, I decided enough was enough. That night I went to my friends house to vent, while there talking with my long time friend (high school friend) he pointed out a lot of things/issues that I wasn't aware of. The bottom line, is that on the next day I went back home and had talk with my long time girlfriend telling her that it was over. I stayed my ground refusing to reconcile. She soon gave up and accepted the inevitable fact that I was no longer gonna be a part of her life. I told her that I would be back tomorrow to pick up my personal property , which she agreed too. I still had 5 days before the end of the month was over giving enough time to gather all that belonged to me and moving it to my friend's house.

    When I arrived to the house just to pick up my clothing I discovered that she was home awaiting my arrival. Apparently she had a change of heart/mind/personality/attitude/etc... and told me that I was not allowed to enter HER HOME. She stated

     "Because you decided to leave, you forfeited your rights to all your property and everything now now belongs to the home and if you try to go into the house I will call the police and have you arrested for breaking and entering. So be on your way, you have no business here."

    Well I tell you truth I didn't see that coming, but when I started to think about it, it dawned on me that just about everything I paid for and realized that I would be leaving the house empty 95% of it at least. I am sure that my ex also realized the same thing and decided against giving me anything, claiming that since I bought and every one had use of it, it automatically became property of the house. Which I responded

    "You are out of your freaking mind, you just can't decide that I have forfeited my property and lock me out, basically robbing me of my property out of convenience. You must have realized what I did also that everything is physically mine because I paid for it." To which she responded

    "Well you are not getting anything, this is a civil matter, so sue me if you think you are entitled to it. So just go away you moved the day you left, with whatever property in hand or not"

    The police came out and I told them that she has unlawfully kept everything that belongs to me because I chose to leave voluntary I had informed the police also that she locked me out. She knew I wasn't going to leave until the month was over since I did pay for half the rent.

    The end result is that this bitter and spiteful woman has locked me out and kept/stole my property.

    What can I do to here for maliciously and without just cause lock me out (because she felt it was the thing to do for not agreeing to continue the relationship?

    And the added bonus is the fact that she has knowingly and willingly kept for herself (stole) everything I owned, I mean everything and refuses to give anything to me.

    She basically locked me out in retaliation for not reconciling with her and kept everything.

    What can I do to her for illegally and without just cause locking me out- in order to defraud me by keeping all my property and I mean everything. Even my real personal things for example my mothers and the only (sibling) brothers ashes , my military uniforms, commendations, combat medals. Please Give some idea as what to do I am in Los Angeles County, CA

  • 05-07-2012 10:40 AM In reply to

    • DOCAR
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    Re: my ex in retaliation, locked me out and stole all everything

    Sue her in small claims court (if the $ limit matches) for the return of the items or the value of the items left behind.  You can talk about "illegally" but the police are not going to do anything, so you are left with civil court.

  • 05-07-2012 10:48 AM In reply to

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    Re: my ex in retaliation, locked me out and stole all everything

    Your girlfriend is truly out to lunch as to her views ---

    But you need to be darn careful lest you find yourself arrested  for something she invents and you wind up calling a bailbondsmen and a lawyer.

    But first some questions--

    1. were you on the lease as a tenant  or what was status of each of you as to being there?

     

     



  • 05-07-2012 10:51 AM In reply to

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    Re: my ex in retaliation, locked me out and stole all everything

    wolfman1066:
    What can I do to her for illegally and without just cause locking me out

    Are you on the lease?  If so, take yourself back to the house and gain entry.  You have as much right to occupy the house as she does.  What, if anything, did the cops tell you?  Did they advise your GF that this was a civil matter or what?

    Personally, I would move back in immediately and stay until I had everything that I wanted. 

     

     

    "Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience."  -  Mark Twain

     

  • 05-07-2012 10:02 PM In reply to

    • Drew
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    Re: my ex in retaliation, locked me out and stole all everything

    Might help us give you more targeted suggestions if you tell us who is whom relative to the lease and any sub leases.

    So far you haven't posted a legally sound basis for her to exclude you from your dwelling place and her big mouth is not the final word but you want to avoid getting arrested by giving her a free windown to  file some sort of trumped up assault complaint----



  • 05-08-2012 2:04 AM In reply to

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    Your are absolutely right, I failed to add the pertinent information that is necessary to receive better information to deal with this vindictive tyrant who has the Napoleon Syndrome. The 3w's (The Wicked Witch of the West) and I had a relationship at one point that mutated into her version of the "Stepford Wives" after 17 years of being conditioned to what she thought was subservient or as my friend would call it "Her trained Monkey" we finally moved into her sister's home (the same one I was locked out of ) all we had with (ex girl friend sister) as to a formal contract, it was very basic rudimentary contract  an understanding of  "Good Faith" that meant pay rent on time and maintain the up keep of the property.  

    We lived at that address since 2005. I decided to move out on August 1, 2011 and I spoke to the 3 W's and she understood and agreed to me my decision, but reneged locking me out and keeping all my property.

  • 05-08-2012 2:19 AM In reply to

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    yes we both are, however, Napoleon (as I nicknamed her, for her hight and temper to match) lives in her world, and as my friend has been doing research as to her activities he is proving to me with documented proof that this spawn of  Satan isin fact that. It seems I will be in the courts for another 2 years for all the fruad that my friend has been uncover with his specially gifted talent as he is a god when on any pc. he is the person that private investigators turn to for answers, his ability to identify, research, reverse engineer, code breaking, etc... if you have skeletons in your closet, he will uncover a grave yard. the man has predicted about 95% of this persons actions before hand. point is that i want to get my property back before she faces the man and has to answer for her role in not following the rules (if you know what I mean)     

  • 05-08-2012 2:20 AM In reply to

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    i am told that her actions are can be considered DV which she can face criminal charges

  • 05-08-2012 8:47 AM In reply to

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    Whether its domestic violence or not I don't see you getting the  DA to take such a view and prosecute a woman as a criminal matter.  If she hauls off and hits you or threatens you with a knife etc--then you may have a decent point-- to merely lock you out is most probably a mere civil dispute and thsi apparently is not a lock out by your landlord but by your co tenant. .

    Landlords suggest:

    You have a civil dispute with your co tenant as to her locking you out --you are free to sue her for whatever you think might stick.

    So far there does not appear to be a sound basis to honor a lock out  --I'm not aware of any good legal reason one roommate can lock the other out --so legally speaking you probably have exactly the same rights to enter and use the place as she does and there does not appear to be any formal surrender of the premises on your part to the true landlord/owner.  In short you probably can just go back in.

    Now if she flies off the handle  and hits you--now you have a good domestic violence issue -but I caution you about a violent break in --it may be legally OK to physically break into your own premises --but it may be expensive to sort it out  if you wind up in a jail cell along the way .

    You seem more inclined to ramble off point than even I do---so if you intend to take direct physical action to exercise your rights to be there I strongly suggest you review your game plan with counsel first --so you have a good idea of how far you can push it--and who to call if she calls police on you!

    One sometimes reads and hears of rather big  sums being paid to get rid of unwanted tenants in CA --with care you may be able to put a nice dent in her pocketbook?

     

     



  • 05-08-2012 9:32 AM In reply to

    • DPH
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    wolfman1066:
    We lived at that address since 2005. I decided to move out on August 1, 2011

    So you haven't lived there for the last ten months and you're just now getting around to worrying about your stuff?  Is that right?

    wolfman1066:
    I failed to add the pertinent information that is necessary to receive better information to deal with this vindictive tyrant who has the Napoleon Syndrome. The 3w's (The Wicked Witch of the West) and I had a relationship at one point that mutated into her version of the "Stepford Wives" after 17 years of being conditioned to what she thought was subservient or as my friend would call it "Her trained Monkey"

    Save the drama, it's not going to get you anywhere.

    wolfman1066:
    all we had with (ex girl friend sister) as to a formal contract, it was very basic rudimentary contract  an understanding of  "Good Faith" that meant pay rent on time and maintain the up keep of the property.  
     

    So, was there ever a signed lease with the sister?

     

     

    "Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience."  -  Mark Twain

     

  • 05-08-2012 10:02 AM In reply to

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    I agree--that for OP to now bellyache about being locked out many months later sure puts his credibility up for debate  and may put up for debate as to does he have any sort of current lease there and may toss into debate what duty the remaining tenant has or had to protect his stuff in any sort of bailment or give him notice before it went off to Goodwill .

    Sis as LL and EX as co tenant may have been unwise not to formally terminate his lease --but I think time really does hurt the OP as to any credibility as to access rights.

    Were this EX posting I'd suggest that both she and owner give the OP about two clear written notices to come get his stuff with times, dates and contact information and then its off to Goodwill --not necessarily legal but practical---



  • 05-09-2012 12:25 AM In reply to

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    It is very presumptuous of you to assume that I have just "Now" decided to address this issue.  For your  information I have been dealing with this issue since it began. I immediately contacted the police who told her to let me back in or go to jail, to which she responded with the one thing she does very good and that is to lie. She had 24 hours to plan this because when I did enter again bringing with me the police as my escorts my file, she had gone through and removed my personal files that pertain to my expenses, receipts, contracts, rental, etc...

    Now this is where it took an interesting turn, now that she has had more than 24hrs to stew and be more spiteful which later equals "getting even" in her language and she does just that. She has taken control of my personal files, denying to the police that no such thing existed and she does this for a reason. You will see why in a minute. As I am getting my  clothing out she says nothing and stands there like a sentry. When I start to unplug my flat screen and proceed to take it, she steps in front of the door objecting and lies to the police officer tell him that she paid for the TV. I looked at her and told that I know what you are trying to do its no coincidence that my files are missing. In an effort not to play judge or referee the police officer states unless I can prove the purchase it will be decided in civil court. This spiteful and vindictive wench planned this whole thing out knowing the out come, before hand.

    All she needed to do is object to anything I wanted to take, that item just like everything else would have to be decided in court. This spawn of Satan is so evil and hateful towards me, because just the day before she told me "No one breaks up with me! I decide when it's over Not you!"  to spite me even more she deliberately defaced and destroyed the plaques/face plates, removing them all together, therefore, making them unidentifiable and subject to the same rule as everything else. The 2 urns hold the remains to my mother and my only brother.  When the police officer stepped out of ear shot, my ex told me in a low voice that she was going to flush the remains of my mother and brother down the toilet because she says I am a piece of fecal matter and since we are related so are they, and that's where fecal matter belongs in the toilet.

    In the end I was able to video tape my property to later identify in court. Now in regards to the lease agreement you want to guess who has that and everything else I own? So I drive down to the sister house to let her know what's going on and to get a copy of the lease. When I arrive to her house she is already outside as if waiting for me with a copy of our lease in hand. She is so apologetic to my situation that she gives me a letter freeing me of any obligation. When I asked her why she was being so understanding, she just said I wouldn't want to be in your shoes right now. Telling me "Just before you arrived, my sister called and told me to tell you "every time you use the bathroom to relieve yourself  you will be either pissing or crapping on their graves"

    6 months later has my income garnished on a judgment of $6000.00 to a lawsuit I never received. She paid people off to say that they personally served me the court documents. But it gets better, she has another write out a declaration that indicates that I made threats of violence against her when I was served. This evil and sadistic venomous snake also has a 3 yr restrain order over my head.

    There is more, much more you wouldn't believe it. If it wasn't happening to me I wouldn't believe it myself. So has you can obviously ascertain I have been busy in the courts filing appeals to the frivolous and false cases that this bitter excuse of a human has been busy with. This woman does nothing but think of ways to annoy and harass me. My insurance was cancelled. My services were transferred/ shut off. My car was reported stolen at gun point (you can guess how that one went down) I was lucky I didn't get shot.

    So yeah, I have had my hands full with this person, and her maliciously and spiteful acts of vengeance against me. For what you might ask? Simply because I chose to end the relationship in which she claims I belong to her only.

    To the individual who stated that I should "Stop Bellyaching" with the "my Drama" and those questioning my credibility and such. If you have any clue in regards the workings of the Law, the courts and the rules, appeals etc... then you should know how much time and effort it takes to contest Judgments Orders. It is much more difficult and time consuming. Therefore, before attaching me as a irresponsible or malingering idiot that has frivolous issues because I happened to mention them (according to you) to late in the game. Implying that I should just shut up and go away.

    People use these places as a source of information, to problems or issues that they have or may have. My intent was to post part of the problem not the whole thing. My expectations,  informative help / suggestions. However, if  you feel that I have wasted your time by posting an issue or if you feel offended that I am wasting your reading time with such insignificant issue.

    Then I suggest that you go and take your interests, your opinionated insults as well as your arrogance a go find a life, a purpose, a meaning to your pathetic existence that you call life.    

  • 05-09-2012 5:30 AM In reply to

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    wolfman1066:
    and those questioning my credibility and such

    One way to perhaps get more useful replies is to refrain from all of the unnecessary rhetoric.  Examples include:

    "Spawn of Satan"

    "Napaleon"

    "Wicked With of the West"

    "bitter excuse of a human"

    Instead, you could simply refer to her as your ex-girlfriend.  The terminology you are using certainly doesn't add to your credibility; it can cause readers to be curious about the other side of the story since your posts are so full of hate.

    wolfman1066:
    Then I suggest that you go and take your interests, your opinionated insults as well as your arrogance a go find a life, a purpose, a meaning to your pathetic existence that you call life

    Yup, now people are going to want to go far out of their way to try and provide you with helpful information.

  • 05-09-2012 5:51 AM In reply to

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    normally i woud leave out the (as my friends would say colorful name calling)

    you just know the half of it. i am discovering all sorts of interesting crimes that has done or she was a part there of. but for a brief moment when i thought i was finally gonna get her. she got away with fraud $12000.00 just shy of that amount

       

  • 05-09-2012 10:08 AM In reply to

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    wolfman1066:
    It is very presumptuous of you to assume that I have just "Now" decided to address this issue

    No it's not.  Had you indicated from the beginning that you had been dealing with this for the previous 10 months I suspect that the responses might have been different.  You could have also posted the fact that you were given an opportunity to retrieve your belongings, but that she was smart enough to know how to make it difficult.

     

    wolfman1066:
    6 months later has my income garnished on a judgment of $6000.00 to a lawsuit I never received

    Explain how that happened.  How did a lawsuit proceed without you knowing anything about it?  Not saying it's not possible, just wondering.

    wolfman1066:
    My insurance was cancelled. My services were transferred/ shut off. My car was reported stolen at gun point (you can guess how that one went down) I was lucky I didn't get shot.

    I find it very difficult to believe that she could have your insurance cancelled and your services turned off without you knowing anything was going on.  Was she the one who arranged to have your car stolen and did you report it to the police?  Did you question your insurance agent and utility companies as to how your services were cancelled?

    wolfman1066:
    My expectations,  informative help / suggestions
     

    You were given suggestions and opinions, which is all that you can expect from this type of forum.  The commenst and suggestions that you received were based on the info that you originally posted which was short on details of your ten month adventure.

    In your original post you stated the follwoing:

    "...After so many years tolerating my girlfriends everyday abuse and controlling demeanor, I decided enough was enough."

    "What can I do to her for illegally and without just cause locking me out- in order to defraud me by keeping all my property and I mean everything. Even my real personal things for example my mothers and the only (sibling) brothers ashes , my military uniforms, commendations, combat medals."

    Not sure how many years you put up with her behavior, but if you knew what she was like, you likely could have avoided all of this by being proactive and moving out when she wasn't around to make it difficult for you to retain your belongings.  You ask "what can I do to her" which to me meant this was going on right now, not ten months ago, not after lawsuits, etc. 

    wolfman1066:
    if  you feel that I have wasted your time by posting an issue or if you feel off
     

    I doubt that anybody feels like they wasted their time or was insulted, but it is nice to know what you're working with to keep comments and suggestions relative to the situation. 

     

    "Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience."  -  Mark Twain

     

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