What kind of charges, if any, can I put on
None. Here is what you have to realize. You are no longer married to this man. You do not need to talk to him or ask his permission to do anything. If you truly still have a joint bank account, stop putting money in it and get your own. If there are mutual finds in a joint account, take yours and open a new seperate account. Do not listen to anything that he has to say, ignore him. Name calling will not kill you, so ignore it.
If he is trying to control you, ignore him. Your divorce was finalized so you are not married. Don't worry about having the marriage annulled unless you are planning on getting remarried in the church. If he wants to get remarried in the church, let him worry about it.
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