I was in a relationship with a man that lasted for 2.5 yrs. He was emotionally abusive. I have been in therapy since the relationship ended two years ago. My therapist believes this individual is personality disordered. As a result of exposure to this man, I have developed complex post traumatic stress disorder. The man ended our relationship immediately following a sexual encounter with me and simply stated he had been "using me" the entire two and a half years and he "appologized" for "dropping a bomb on me". I have known this man since 1998 as he was a work collegue prior to our intimate relationship.
I am two years into my therapy from a rather shocking, sexual and emotionally abusive ending to this relationship. There are many other transgressions that were in play, this is just his grand finale. I have gone thru all stages of grief from the relationship and am somewhat stuck in the anger and depression stages of this experience.
I have been in contact with this individual off and on since this sexual dumping and taunting happened to me. I am very angry and have been asking this man to meet with a mediator to discuss what he did to me and its affects. He has of course refused.
He kept our relationship a secret from his "common law" wife whom is 15years his senior. He is a 50 yr old man. In my angry depressed stage, I have somewhat flipped my lid and I started contacting our former co workers and I told them what he did to me. I also wrote his common law wife a three page letter explaining our "secretive relationship" he hid from her, and that he called HER his bizarre platonic relationship.
I have sent him at least a hundred or more emails, texts, and have left letters and voicemail expressing my horror and outrage of being emotionally raped - adding the sexual element to the actually breakup has just destroyed my emotional and sexual health.
No matter how I have tried to reach this man, he continues to deny me any closure or the courtesy of a mediated discussion with a therapist or county mediator. One of the letters I left for him on his vehicle was picked up by his current girlfriend whom he has not told the truth .. And now he is very angry and is claiming I am harassing him. He has filed some sort of case against me via King County in Seattle. I have nothing to harm his property ... I have just been writing and writing, almost stuck in a loop trying to express the pain and damage he has inflicted on me.
When we got involved I was still married and considering divorce. I got a divorce during my relationship with this man and sometimes I feel he coaxed me out of my marriage to simply laugh at me afterwards, after he has enough sexual usage from me. I am raising two kids on my own, and he is simply a single never married 50 yr old narccisist.
How do I protect myself from his claims at somehow he is the victim and I am the abuser?
How can I legally document his emotional abuse and its affect on my life?
I feel like I am slipping thru the cracks and have no way to describe to any authority what I have been thru with this sociopathic individual.
Would a civil suit with intentional infliction of emotional distress help communicate what happened and protect me? I have therapy expenses (two years worth) but I don't even care about that, I just want people to know what happened to me.
I am not a crazy person, I am a respectable middle aged women with a great career and I'm raising a few kids alone. This man took so much from me under the disguise of being my friend and lover, yet he turned out to be a complete fake. We had known each other for over ten years. I did nothing but give him support when he lost his job, I encouraged him, and tried to understand and be patient with him and his odd relationship with this old woman, yet he inevitablely sucker punched me with no warning whatsoever.
I feel so betrayed by him, yet now he is angry because I have exposed the truth about him to the "other women" he uses and he is trying to file some sort of harassment order against me.
If IIED might work for me, I'd sure appreciate any advice you can provide.