Please don't laugh at me. I don't know if I am right or wrong but what I am about to describe is stressful for me, and I want to do the right thing. The situation:
There is a person at my office with the title of manager although no one reports to him. He frequently makes inappropriate comments that people just shrug off (derogatory remarks about women - although these remarks have not been sexual in nature - just things about how women can't do this and women can't do that). Sometimes in his attempts to be cute or funny, he will make a comment that borders on sexual, and he brings up for conversation in an open cube area things that make headlines in the news (like the Elmo guy who resigned his job due to sexual misconduct allegations).
A couple of weeks ago, he crossed the line. He openly discussed in cubeland that he had an "infection in a sensitive area" and was going to the doctor. I quipped: "<Name>, this is too much information for me." When he got back from the doctor, he started talking about the doctor visit in rather graphic detail. Over the next day and a half, he talked about it more - again out in cubeland where many could hear, including me.
I did not go to my boss, because he and my boss are buddies. Furthermore, my boss makes jokes that are borderline inappropriate and also openly admits he has a double standard when it comes to male verus female employees.
I did not go to HR because our HR department has a history of incompetence with several settled lawsuits and several open lawsuits, and the company has gone through three HR directors in two years. Two weeks ago, I called the outsourced ethics line to make a report. They gave me a report key and passcode.
The person I complained about has acted agrily towards me for the last week. The other day he came to my desk to start chatting about things happening in the company. Then he said, "I am so ***angry. I got hauled into HR. Someone called the ethics line about me talking about my infection." I just played dumb. He then said that "if it was you, talk to me first next time." I didn't say anything about that comment. I feel it was inappropriate to go fishing trying to find out who reported it. The way he also has treated me rudely the last week and a half feels like retaliation.
Today I logged into the line's website. The report back from the company (posted Monday before this person verbally attacked me) was that the investigation was completed and appropriate action was taken but that the action could not be disclosed to confidentiality. I don't feel the company took care of it or this person would not have done what he did. As he continued to make inappropriate comments (trying to be funny), he would make comments like disclaimers about not wanting to get in trouble.
What do I do now? This isn't right. I fear his boss (my boss) may have figured out who reported it and will treat me even more unfairly.