My situation is a bit complicated so here it goes. I used to be in the Marines and when I came back from Iraq, a few months later I became pregnant. However, I had a boyfriend that I had broken up with and went back to my ex boyfriend with in that same week in September of 2003. My exboyfriend and I decided to get married and we did back in Oct of 2003. Come December, we figured out it was a mistake to marry and we had many problems. I decided to move out January 2004. I went back to my ex boyfriend while awaiting divorce papers, seperated from my then husband. February 2004 I found out I was pregnant and I didn't know how far along I was. When I finally found out, I was 4 1/2 months and I fell to the ground, devestated. At that point, I didn't know who was the father of my child. I told both my boyfriend at the time and husband at that time whom I was seperated with what was going on. Since my divorce papers were already turned in to the court I was just waiting the finalized judgement which in California it is 6 months wait. My son was born in July 2004 and technically I was still married and both my boyfriend and I decided to give my son my boyfriends last name, not the husband. The husband didn't want nothing to do with my son and pretty much said that my son had a father already. I offered both of them to take the DNA test and none of them wanted to take it. Time passed and I married my boyfriend in May of 2005. In my sons California birth certificate, it has my info as the mother and on the name part of the father it is blank, however my boyfriends place of birth and birthdate is on it, which really confused me because my boyfriend at the time signed the birth certiifcate. Early 2008, my husband at the time decided to finally take the DNA test. Results came back and it came out that it was not his child. We were devestated and he was very upset that I wanted to do a DNA test. My 2nd ex husband and I final divorce was in 2009. Now, I know that my first ex-husband is the birth father, he wants nothing to do with my son. I contacted him during the years and he was very reluctant. I even put child support on him in California in late 2008 and he was hard to find since he moved alot. Then I met my current husband who is a Marine in California. We married Feb 2010 and a month later we found out that he had orders to Virginia. When we finally were in Virginia, child support office in California had found my 1st ex-husband and the office refused to give me his address and his information since we no longer lived in California. I was instructed to re-open a new case in Virginia. Well, I didn't, we are only here temporary and we have a house in California and planning to move back when my husband retires from the Marines. While in Virgnia, I contacted my first ex husband via phone and I asked him to terminate his rights. His response was, if you are going to tell him I'm his biological father, then I'll meet him, but if not, I can sign my rights off. He is a very undecided person and has always been non-dependable. I don't think he will want to give me his address. 2010 the last time I ever heard from birth father and he has never met my son and it has been 8 years. Now my husband has military orders to Yuma, Arizona and we plan to be there May/June 2013 and he plans to do the adoption process there. What can we do?
My child is 8 yrs old and on his California birth certificate it states no name for father but only place of birth and birthdate of second ex husband.
My child's birth father (1st ex husband) does not want to be part of his life since he hasn't made any efforts after me giving him my phone number to contact his child, since birth. I don't think he will want to give me his physical address to mail him court forms.
My current husband wants to adopt my son and we will be residing in Arizona next year May/June 2013. Can my husband just adopt my son with out any of my 2 ex husbands consent? In both divorces, it states that we didn't have children. First one because when we divorced I didn't know who the father was, no DNA test was in place. The second time, he was so ***angry, that he said, well your son isn't biologically mine so I'm not stating that we have children. It should have not been any surprise because I told both of them right away that I wasn't sure who was the father of my son.