Hello all. I will try to shorten this in the interest of time.
In 2000 a woman I was dating ended up getting pregnant. I foolishly signed a declaration of Paternity WITHOUT getting a paternity test (however, I did not sign the birth certificate). I felt coerced by the lady who works for the state whom sets up the child support payments (guardian ad litem I believe??). I thought it would jeopardize the situation with seeing my child. Anyhow, we went our separate ways on good terms and I proceeded to pay child support for 2 years or so.
It was then brought to her attention that in 2000 she had sex with someone else right after we split - she was inebriated and actually did not remember this encounter. After she told me I proceeded to actually get a DNA test. I'm not the biological father. So I got a lawyer and went to court to vacate the order of paternity. The mother was completely on board and helped every way she could. Before we could say ANYTHING to the judge (and after I paid my attorney a couple thousand dollars), it was noted that after 2 years Washington law dictates that the declaration that I signed cannot be reversed for ANY reason. The states attorney AND judge were actually trying to help me figure out another way but they could not.
So they did inform her that all she has to do is go down and request the support payments stop, which she did. BUT if she ever needed States assistance the payments will start again automatically. We both decided it was best that I did not act as the father. I've had 0 contact since. I now live in Arizona. Now 13 years later, the payments started up!
I got in contact with her and she would like me to relinquish my rights. Where do I start? It seems that getting the paperwork together for her to file would be the best route since she is the mother. She also mentioned her fiance' wants to adopt, but they are not married yet. Any help would be appriciated.