My friend, John, asked me for help in finding out about what he needs to do. John doesn't have internet access at the moment so I'm trying to help find information.
His father, Bob, is 82, and lives alone. Due to age and poor vision, Bob's doctor told him not to drive anymore (Bob didn't reveal this to his family). John and his son, Bill, have been asking Bob for months not to drive because they are concerned for his safety, but Bob refused until his doctor told him to stop driving.
Two months ago, two women began showing up at Bob's house. John asked Bob about the women, who they were, what they were doing there, and Bob said that his doctor sent them to clean his house.* Since Bob is on a very limited income, John asked him how he was paying them. He was reluctant to speak about it so John didn't question him any further.
One day last month, when Bill went to visit Bob, Bob wasn't there so Bill waited for him. Bob was with the two women again. Bill asked Bob where he went that day. Bob replied, "to the pharmacy." But Bob didn't have a pharmacy bag, or anything at all. When Bill checked Bob's medication, some of his narcotic pain relievers were missing. Bill had just checked the meds the day prior and no one else has been in the house. Confirmed by a neighbor who has a security camera that the women's vehicle was the only one.
Today, when John was going to check on Bob, he saw Bob at the store near his house, where he has a charge account. Bob was putting gas in the women's vehicle. When John talked to Bob, Bob said the women needed gas, then added that he wasn't paying for it. I encouraged John to go by the store and speak with the proprietor. They informed John that Bob did pay for their gas, and this has been going on for two months. They get gas, cigarettes, and food on Bob's account running his bill into the hundreds of dollars every month.
As stated, Bob's income is very limited. He didn't have enough money last month to buy cat food. John feels Bob is going along with these two because of the doctor. This doctor works in an office through the hospital in a small town nearby, and is next to a nursing home who are also patients.
Should John file a complaint with the hospital? Report it to Adult Protective Services? Law enforcement? Anyone else?
*It has been confirmed that the doctor did send them. Bob is entirely capable of cleaning his home. He lives alone, is a very neat and clean person, is active, so light cleaning is all he has to do. John and Bill's wives clean for him, also, when they visit. Someone is always available to drive him at any given time.
They think Bob may feel that if he asks for help he will be viewed as feeble, when he is anything but. He just can't see well enough to drive anymore. When Bob's wife was ill, the family took care of her and will do the same for him. Bill is moving in next door to Bob next month.
Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this!