First of all I would like to correct your assessment sir or ma'am. It was unequivocally NOT a beating! It was a spanking gone wrong. And yes, I will defend my husband, and our children's father with my last dying breathe. As I would defend my children against him if I felt he was an actual threat to our children.
To better understand the reason behind the spanking, you may need to understand what led up to it. Our children have after school program. So they walk home. When they get home they are suppose to go into the home, lock the door and call us to let us know they are home. They are to remain indoors at all times, not to answer the door period, and to stay inside at all times. And since childcare does not go back to pickup children in after school programs, or the ones that do have no openings, we were left with the only choice of having them walk home. And mind you, this is not our favorite choice. However, we have been having issues recently with them not following directions and the rules.
My middle son decided to get into a vehicle with a stranger 2 days prior because he was outside on his roller blades, and fell. The stranger seen this and stopped. Instead of the stranger coming to get me, or anything remotely correct. He insisted my son get into his vehicle, so he could take him home. First off MAJOR no no! And our children have been taught not to listen to strangers so much, you'd think he wouldn't have listened. But no, he got into the car. Now, granted the stranger did bring him home, but he sure didn't stick around to speak to me, or let me know what he looked like. He honked his horn, and took off before I ever made it to the door.
Then 2 days later, our 2 youngest called us, but they did not stay in the home. They threw their backpacks on the porch and took off. So when my husband came home after picking up our oldest child to find 2 backpacks on the porch, and no children. I would imagine the same scary thoughts would have went through any sane persons mind. WHERE ARE MY CHILDREN?!?!? DID SOMETHING HAPPEN TO THEM?!?!?!?!
My husband proceeded to get in his vehicle and search the neighborhood. Luckily after a few minutes he found our youngest son down the street playing with a friend. He asked him where our middle son was. Turned out he was 10 blocks away, at a friends house that we had yet to meet the parents, or get a phone number from.
Yes my husband spanked my children, after explaining to them the need for rules, and how there are bad people in this world that wish to do them harm. My husband does not like to corporal punish, however this incident warranted a stricter punishment, than taking away toys, games tv, or putting them on restriction. As we have done prior to this, and it still did not curb their need to not listen.
My husband did NOT beat our children, he spanked them. Yes, it left a mark, however, he did not plan on leaving a mark, he did not spank in anger, and he sure didn't abuse our children like many would like to believe.
I came on this forum looking for answers, and maybe some sort of assistance, besides having noses looked down on us. We are a successful family, who have many friends around us who know what kind of parents we are. They know we treat our children well, and we intend ONLY the best for them.
We do not use drugs, we do not drink to excess, we do not curse often, we try to lecture our children instead of using corporal punishment. And the one time an incident does happen, we are forced to now prove ourselves as fit parents.
Now, if you do not think I have the right to be upset about all of this, and try to protect ALL of my family. Then well, that is your right and your opinion. However, I want some legal advice on how to deal with CPS, and what my rights are as a parent, and my husbands, in trying to get the madness removed from our family before it causes significant damages to it. So I came on this forum after stumbling on it while doing a google. I intend to fight for my family, and I intend to keep my children safe. I will do what CPS needs me to do, however, I will not allow anyone to trample on the rights of my family to live a happy and successful life, just because they don't believe in our methods of punishment. And like I said prior, I've been married for 12 years to this man, together for 14, never once has he laid a mean hand on me, or our children. And trust me sir or ma'am, we've dealt with bigger messes than this one when he was in the military, and worried if he would make it home alive. So this is just a stepping stone for us.
If you think I make light about the issue, I do not. I am upset he left bruises, but do I toss him out to be a lowlife scumbag who doesn't deserve to care about his children, or have them care about him? You better bet NOT! And the quicker I get actual helpful answers to my questions on how to handle this and what to do, the faster my family can get back to normal, and my children, husband, and I do not have to feel like we've been violated, or abused.
And to make this abundantly clear to anyone who reads this. I am willing to hear advice that will actually help our family, not to instill more upset it in. We are not above going to classes to help our family, we are not above doing what is asked of us. What we will not tolerate is being bullied around by a big dog without a leash. And sad to say, I've yet to hear any cinderella stories come out of dealings with CPS.