Nurse lied and said it was the law that I couldn't be in there. estronaut.com states "During an exam, it is likely that a nurse will also be in the room to assist the doctor." About.com states"6. Remember, you are entitled to have a female nurse present during the exam, even if your doctor is female. If you want the nurse present, say so as soon as possible - and it is OK to ask the nurse to join you part way through." kidshealth.org states "It's best to involve your parents in your health care." www.utoronto.ca states "You may ask to have your husband, a friend or the nurse in the room with you." www.nyu.edu states "Many women complain that the most objectionable part of the exam is that it feels undignified to have to expose one's genitals to a stranger." "It is okay to have someone with you, such as your mother or a close girlfriend."
Nurse used excessive force and hurt daughter.
coolnurse.com states "The pelvic exam should not hurt and if at any point it does, make sure to let the practicioner know." (daughter screamed out in pain. She cried the whole time.) MayoClinic.com states "Inserting and opening the speculum can cause pressure or discomfort for some women. Relaxing as much as possible may ease discomfort, but tell your doctor if it is painful." About.com states "10. The exam will be uncomfortable, even awkward, but should not hurt." kidshealth.org states "The most important thing is that you feel comfortable with the person who is examining you." "Putting in and opening the speculum should not be painful, although some women say that it can cause a bit of pressure and discomfort." www.sogc.org states "It is true that a pelvic exam can be embarassing, but it does not hurt. During a pelvic exam, you will feel pressure (like someone squeezing you hard), but you should not feel pain." "It should not hurt when the doctor gently slides [speculum] into your vagina. If you do feel any discomfort, let your doctor know." www.nyu.edu states "The pelvic exam will not hurt. Many woman describe the experience as a sensation of crowding or fullness in the vagina; however, there should be no pain." "Should the speculum cause you discomfort, tell your clinician immediately; often a smaller speculum can be used." www.womenshealthmatters.ca states "You may feel pressure, but it should not be painful." Laith Farid Gulli, M.D. ; Robert Ramirez, B.S. state "Other than minor discomfort, there are no risks associated with a routine pelvic examination." studenthealth.sa.ucsb.edu states "The pelvic exam should not be painful or embarrassing." "Your provider will gently insert a plastic speculum. The speculum holds open the vaginal wall. You will feel some pressure when the speculum is inserted but it is done slowly and carefully. If you do feel tenderness or pain, tell the provider so that the speculum can be adjusted to make you feel more comfortable." www.utoronto.ca states "He or she inserts a slender instrument (made of plastic or smooth metal) called a speculum gently into your vagina, opening vagina to see your cervix. For easier insertion, the doctor lubricates the speculum and may heat the instrument to make it more comfortable for you."
Daughter said that when nurse pulled out the speculum, she shut her legs, and tried to keep them shut, to protect herself. But nurse proceeded to physically force daughter's legs open. Nurse held open daughter's legs with one arm and shoved her fingers in her. When I asked daughter if nurse felt the ouside of her stomach, she said no. In a bimanual exam, per estronaut.com, "For this part of the exam, the doctor will lubricate her index and middle fingers with K-Y jelly to aid in the comfort of the patient during insertion into the vagina. The doctor will place these two fingers on the cervix while placing her other hand on the patient's abdomen (over the uterus.) She will then press down lightly, which does not feel much different from when a doctor presses on the abdomen alone. Both hands are used to get a feeling for the size of the uterus. The doctor may use the fingers inside the vagina to move the cervix around a little to check for any pain, as this would indicate pelvic inflammatory disease. The doctor will then move both her fingers inside the vagina to both the right and left side's of the patient's cervix. She will move her abdominal hand also a litle to the right and left to feel for the size of the ovaries and to try to locate any abnormalties." kidshealth.org states "With two hands, one on the outside and one on the inside, the doctor can make sure that the ovaries and uterus are the right size and free of cysts or other growths." ( Now, I ask you, what was she doing? She was only supposed to be looking for a discharge. The bimanual exam was not only not necessary, but done very incorrectly. She forced daughter's legs open to shove her fingers in, but never felt the outside of her abdomen? Why? I believe she was just continuing the torture.)
As per FindLaw.com:
ABA Family Legal Guide; Regulating Health-Care Professionals states "The most common ground for suspending a license is unprofessional conduct." "A jury will compare your doctor's conduct with how other doctors would have acted if faced with the same or similar circumstances." (I believe that all those websites prove that most doctors would be kind and gentle, caring about the patient's comfort.)
ABA Family Legal Guide; Rights and Responsibilities of Parents states "Parents have a right to direct the care, control, and upbringing of their children for as long as they are minors." "Parents also have the legal authority to control their children's behavior and social lives. Parents may discipline or punish their children appropriately. They may not, however, use cruel methods or excessive force; that constitutes child abuse." (Nurse's cruel methods and excessive force should also constitute child abuse!)
ABA Family Legal Guide; Abuse and Neglect Laws states "The law protects children from abuse and neglect. It also entitles them to the protection of the state." "It is a crime for adults to abuse children in their care. The term "adult" includes parents, foster parents, legal guardians, other adults in home, family members, and baby-sitters. Supervising adults may not go beyond reasonable physical punishment. Child abuse laws involve not only physical abuse, but include other types of cruelty, such as subjecting a child to extreme humiliation." (For all intents and purposes, when nurse made me leave child alone with her, she became her "baby-sitter" and she subjected her to cruelty and extreme humiliation!) (I don't know why these laws are so narrow as to WHO can commit child abuse. Child abuse is just that, the "abuse" of a "child" no matter who does the abusing!)
ABA Family Legal Guide; The Basics of Personal Injury Law states "Your injury must be the result of someone else's fault. Your injury need not be physical to bring a personal injury lawsuit. Suits may be based on a variety of nonphysical losses and harms to your reputation or psyche. In the intentional tort of assault, for example, you do not need to show that a person's actions caused you actual physical harm, but only that it caused an expectation that some harm would come to you. You may also have an action if someone has...negligently or intentionally subjected you to emotional distress."
ABA Family Legal Guide; Personal Injury; Intentional Wrongs states " Intentional torts are those in which the wrongdoer intends to act in a certain way." "Some common intentional torts against a person include assault,......and intentional infliction of emotional distress." "A person who is found liable for an intentional tort does more than just act carelessly. The person committing the intentional tort knows the consequences of his or her actions." "The law considers torts to be wrongs against an individual, allowing them to sue for money damages." "An assault is a reasonable apprehension (expectation) of some harm that may come to you. Unlike a battery, you must know that an assault is occuring at the time it takes place. A court will look at what happened. A great deal will depend on the reasonableness of your own feelings when threatened. The court will consider whether the closeness of the physical threat subjectively should have upset, frightened, or humiliated you. Words alone usually aren't enough to bring a case for assault." (But add physical assault too. Nurse MEANT to cause child pain, upset, frighten and humiliate her. It is perfectly reasonable for a child who is alone, naked, spread open and vulnerable to have all of these feelings, especially coming from an adult in such a position of authority and that you are supposed to be able to trust to treat you with dignity and respect at such a personal exam. And nurse, being a nurse and a female knew that.)
lawyers.com states "In a failure to use reasonable care, under Louisiana law, the person who injuredd you is responsible for:
Past, current and future medical expenses.
Your emotional distress, including anxiety,depression, and any interference with your family relationships.
Any other costs that were a direct result of your injury.