hmm, I left out some important info! Last year, her junior year, I sent mom a text and said what are you thinking for colleges. CP sent back text and listed 10-15 schools all out of state. I replied and said I am requesting that daughter also needs to include some in state schools as we are required to agree on a "mutually affordable college". and that child will need to apply for fin aid, merit, etc as per the divorce agreement. CP wrote back and said all colleges are expensive. I SAVED this for proof that I requested this.
Flash forward to senior year, I had heard nothing from either CP or child regardinig schools. they went and applied to all of them and visited them without ever telling me or including me. I called Guidance counselor and she gave me access to her colleges she is applying to. They were ALL different than last year but still no in state colleges. They were all out of state colleges and very expensive.
SO I called my lawyer. He said send a certified letter to CP stating what the agreement mandates "mutually affordable college" and that no parent can choose a college without the other parents consent and that if the child refuses to apply for financial aid, merit, loans, parent can withhold consent. I also asked for meeting with guidance counselor with two of us prior to end of December. I also asked that she apply to in state schools for safety schools as we don't know what final award packages will be and agreement states the college needs to be mutually affordable. Attorney advised me if I don't do anything or say anything prior to all deadlines, courts could assume my consent to anything. So, I sent the certified letter and paid extra that the only one who can sign for it was CP. BUT the post office let my child sign for it.Surprise surprise, I have NOT heard back from CP.
I am going to follow up this week with an email to CP with the letter again and would also like to include language that what is common in mass for contributions 1/3 and in state and once again ask that she apply to some in state schools. (it is not too late and I will have requested this three times)
At this point, I believe I have covered all my bases when and if we go to court. I don't see how they can order me to pay full child support and also contribution toward an out of state private school when I have requested in state etc.. Of course no one knows, but I think I have done all I can do? Thoughts?