"lawyer called us in for meeting saying other side is trying to get this dismissed saying after sowfall they are allowed reasonable time to remedy situation.I understand that but I keep telling them it was not snowing anymore at 9:30 am when we went to funeral home."
First of all, just because the "other side is trying to get this dismissed" doesn't mean it will be successful. Second, it really doesn't matter what you say to your lawyer. Presumably, the fact that it was not snowing at the time of the fall is undisputed. The issue, presumably, is whether the cemetery had a resonsibility to remove ice in winter from the particular area, and whether, if so, enough time had passed that it's failure to do so constituted negligence. Frankly, I don't see the latter as something that could be resolved other than by a jury at trial.
"he asked guys that should have done it and they lied to him and said they had."
Unless the person in charge had reason to believe that the employees had lied, this may be sufficient to discharge the cemetery's liability.
"I've given him 7 names of witnesses,and could have given all that were there,everyone agreed how bad conditions were.He has never talked to any of them."
Unless the cemetery disputes the conditions, interviews wouldn't be necessary. And, if the cemetery does dispute the conditions, if you have essentially told the lawyer what these folks are going to say, there's probably no need for him to interview them until it's absolutely necessary.
"They say it never stopped snowing in time."
OK...that creates a question of fact that should preclude any dismissal before trial ON THAT BASIS. However, if the basis on which the cemetery is seeking dismissal is that, accepting your version of the conditions as true, the caretaker's reliance on the employees' false statements discharged liability, then any dispute regarding the conditions isn't relevant to that issue.
"I'm getting the feeling hes not trying .Is there any recourse on our part?"
Regardless of anything I've said above, you're free to fire your lawyer and hire a new one. However, most of your post is about what the cemetery is claiming and what the cemetery is doing. With respect to your lawyer, all you've said is that he (a) communicated to you what the other side is doing, and (b) hasn't interviewed certain witnesses, and none of that speaks to whether he is or isn't doing a good job. What I would want to know is how the other side is "trying to get [the case] dismissed," and what your lawyer is planning on doing to prevent that result.