I did not provide all the details and personal information because I did not believe it was pertinent to the question asked. While I thank you for your time taken to reply.....your response about "backing off" and " the kids already going through enough" do not even apply to the question(s) asked, they are merely YOUR personal opinion.
First- we are not "shacking" up. We are in a well discussed, well explored committed relationship. I am in my 40's and do not take relationships so lightly as to just "shack up" as you so crudely put it. I have five children of my own and am a dedicated, committed, mom. I am open, up front and very communicative with my own children and his daughters. Second- what I did not share because I did not think it pertinent is that there are points in our early relationship where he wasnt quite honest with me regarding his marital situation. When the relationship began I was led to believe he was divorced for several years. As we continued on seeing each other, just dating, we became very emotionally involved. And then emotionally committed. Before he moved in I sat down with my children and discussed the possibility. I opened the floor with them to discuss, share and explore their feelings on this. I listened, I respected and then went from there. He moved in and the truth was eventually revealed. By this time we were emotionally involved deeply. We sat down and discussed every aspect of his choices, poor as they were. We now approach every part of our relationship with honesty and openness and yes, I decided I loved him and wanted to remain in a relationship with him. He made poor choices but is a good man, and even went to his wife and accepted accountability and responsibility for his actions. So when you made your PERSONAL opinion to "back off" you did not know all the facts and certainly did not provide a reply or answer pertaining to the questions.