I can give you some idea on what the court sees as important, and maybe that will help.
The court recognizes the rights of both parents as being equal. In other words, when you had the child, you both became entitled to know her and have a relationship with her, without the sanction or approval of the other parent. You also both have a right to have a relationship without the other parent's involvement. In other words, because he is the bio dad, you cannot dictate how he spends his time with the child when he has her, and he cannot tell you.
Typically, it would not be unsual at 17 months to go to the other parent's home for visitation. He is allowed, during this time, to introduce her to his parents, his friends, even his girlfriend, and typically you cannot say he cannot do these things. It is important that you always appear to support their relationship.
The court is very much in favor of a non-custodial parent being interested in a child, but it would be his job to file for the visitation. Since you are concerned about them not knowing one another, it might be a good idea if you sat down and figured out a gradually increasing visitation schedule, as your response. Otherwise, the court may give him the standard visitation. For example, maybe until she is 2 he could take her for a couple of hours on Saturday or Sunday, during the day. When she is 2 he can take her for one day and one overnight. At 2 1/2 he could take her for a weekend, and by 3 be up to the "standard visitation," which is every other weekend and one or two evenings a week. It's just an idea, and you could come up with something different. The important thing is that you show the court that you are interested in your daughter knowing her father, and that you will do your part and have her ready for the visitation.
You might also consider what to do for the holidays. Christmas is only two months away, so you might suggest he has her for part of the day, maybe after her nap in the afternoon until after dinner or something like that. This may be hard for you, I know, but if you consider he has the same rights you do it might help to plan holidays. If his family does their Christmas event on Christmas eve, maybe that would work better. Thanksgiving, same thing, and try to think of upcoming years. Do you want to alternate, or keep it the same every year?
By the way, you are legally obligated to have the child ready for visits, but he is not legally obligated to exercise them. You are not obligated to allow him more time than the Order allows, and either of you can go back in future to modify the Order. You should also realize that your response to his request for visitation is only your suggestion, and depending on his suggestions, the court may come up with something different than either of you. I didn't want you to think that since you were spending time working this out, that was necessarily the way it was going to go.
Let us know if you need something else.