Hope everybody had a great Holiday. I am writing to get some advice on a post-decree matter concerning my minor daughter (7 yrs old).
My daughter lives in the Cincinnati area, and hence the case is based there as well. I am the non-residential parent and I live in Illinois.
Recently, I took my daughter for counseling, to try and improve our communication. My ex-wife objected to this, citing logistical reasons (on her side). Furthermore, she discouraged my daughter from participating. I still went ahead and took her to a counselor.
My ex-wife has filed a motion of contempt against me, stated that I overstepped my boundaries as a non-residential parent. I am not sure if her complaint has any merit at all, but wanted enlightened folks on this board to opine before I hire counsel to defend this allgation.
Also please note that the law in our case consists of a seies of Agreed Entries. One of them clearly (even-handedly) states that both parents must inform the other parent if minor daughter has received any form of medical attention. The purpose of this was to level the playing field and to give each parent the right to know. After each session with the counselor, I have, in accordance with the agreed entry mentioned previously, written an email to my ex-wife, fully explaining to her the appointment and the outcome.
Please let me know if anyone here has had a similar experience.
Bottom-line, I don't think a court can/should sanction a parent for seeking medical help for a son/daughter.
Second of all, I think it is blantantly unfair that I have to seek my ex-wife's permission to repair my relationship with my daughter, a relationship that the ex-wife has deliberately undermined (this was a legal finding).
If they argue that non-residential parents can only seek emergency medical help, then it is fair to say that, given the deteriorating relationship and a breakdown in communication that I have suffered is AN EMERGENCY.
Is the contempt motion defensible, and should I file counter-motion citing other violations of our Agreed Entry in our case that my ex-wife has committed?
Your responses would be much appreciated.
Thank you, and this is wishing everybody a happy New Year.