My mother is 85 years old with multiple ailments which require her to have round the clock care. She is currently in a nursing home. My overbearing brother David had stonewalled my mother into making him her POA and medical POA 8 years ago. My mother has always been a weak woman. My brother has bullied all six other kids at one point or another throughout our lives. As the youngest daughter, I got the worst of the bullying, and my parents never kicked him out of the house or did anything to stop him. My father is deceased. My brother would never be voted in as the person to handle my mother's affairs by the other six siblings in a million years because he turns everything into an argument with each of us, and I mean everything. He acts like a martyr because he says that he does everything, but he won't let anyone help him, no kidding. My sister isn't allowed to do my mom's laundry, because he wants to do it; no one can take mom to her appointments because he has to do it, and so forth. Everyone is supposed to report to him before they visit mom so that he can have a "break" because he visits her everyday, but if you do what he says and call to let him know that you will be visiting, he will visit mom anyway and be there when you show up. He thinks that nobody cares about mom but him, but he alienates everyone and talks down to everyone, and his reputation precedes him. We often feel that he holds our mother hostage. His thing is that we must all visit mom and check the calendar on her wall, that he is "done" communicating with us in any other way, because nobody cares but him. There are six other people involved here who do care. When I emailed him regarding mom's appointments so that I can be sure that she will be there when I arrive, I am emailed that I need to check the bulletin board or call him on the day I intend to visit, and then he will tell me if it is a "good day" or a "bad day" to visit. We are not supposed to talk to mom's doctors, or the staff at the nursing home, or there is hell to pay. Frankly, I do not want to speak with him, and feel great resentment that my mom set things up this way. I found out that my mom had been in and out of the hospital for three days by , when I went late in the week to visit her one time and ran into him at the the nursing home. I found out that mom had problems with her kidneys six months after the problems started, because he withheld information from us until he was ready to report it. He recently removed mom from the nursing home for a week's vacation and didn't tell anyone. It is outrageous. I have had it up to here with his *?#@!!! There ought to be a law that makes the medical POA report to the family via weekly emails the medical status of their family member, or else there will be daily steep fines for that person to pay. Please let me know if anybody knows of any power that children other than the medical POA has regarding their parent's care. Thank you.