I have spoken to my daughter, and her mother. Her mother allowed Cher to quit school in tenth grade, when she turned 16. While her mother would like her to get her GED, Cher wants to get a job. However, her mother is telling her not to, because I pay so much in child support, she feels she'll be better off living off the child support rather than getting a job.
Meanwhile Cher isn't doing anything, and from what she tells me, doesn't plan on doing anything because of the child support.
This information is from conversations with both mother and daughter. They know the law, they know my hands are tied and because the law is what it is, she doesn't have to do anything to collect the money until she is 21. Its perfectly legal.
I feel its terrible that Cher can be allowed to basically sit home and do nothing to advance her future, because I am paying her way. It does nothing for her.
If she were going to school, or college, I would not be against supporting her until she is 21.
As far as I know, other states that allow child support until the age of 21, the young adult has to be in some sort of school. Also, I'd like to point out that according to NYS Foster Care, 18 is considered an adult and they are no longer supported by NYS and able to stay in Foster Care, they can go into a group home and even then they have to go to school or get a job. They are expected to help themselves. Same with Guardianship, at 18 they are considered an adult. As far as I know, even NYS Child Health stops at 18 unless they are in school.
NYS doesn't want to support kids unless they are under 18, or helping themselves by furthering their education, yet a non custodial parent is expected to, even if all it does, it encourage a child to not grow up and face resposiblity.
I have made my feelings known to both the mother and my daughter, and I've been told they know the law, and they can do this. And they are right, they can.