Hi. My wife of 25 years and I recently went through a "quickie" no-fault divorce. She asked for the divorce because she was tired of me struggling professionally and wanted to "have her own life". This came out of the blue and was a complete shock to me at the time. There were no signs leading up to this.
In the very beginning, right after she asked for the divorce, she led me to believe that after the passing of some time and improvement of my work situation we might be able to work it out. So, in the interest of preventing any kind of scorched-Earth divorce scenario, I agreed to the do-it-yourself no-fault divorce available to us here in Texas.
This has all taken place within the last 6 months, btw...
Anyway, as the date for our hearing got closer and closer, her reasons and attitudes changed. A few weeks after asking for the divorce, she changed her attitude from "we can work on it in the future" to "there's no chance". That's fine, I thought, these things happen.
So, we went to court, both answered the judge's questions accordingly, and were granted the divorce. As we walked out of the court room I told her that I had just lied to the judge. I didn't want the divorce, and I had no "personality conflict" with her.
Everything I agreed to relating to our common property and shared assets was based upon the premise that she was simply not happy in the marriage anymore and wanted out. Again, I was NOT unhappy, but these things do happen. I asked her on several occasions if there was a third party involved, she assured me there was not every time.
She was lying. A month after the divorce was granted my former best friend of 35 years called and told me that he was having a relationship with my (ex) wife. I subsequently found out that this "relationship" had been going on long before she asked me for the divorce, that they had conspired between themselves to get me to agree to this no-fault divorce so I would just go away without a fight, and I now find myself in the position of having agreed to the divorce under false pretenses engineered by their deception beforehand.
Needless to say, I am less than happy about all this. I lost my home, my financial support, and pretty much my entire life. I have recovered somewhat professionally and am currently in a stable and comfortable living situation.
Still, I would like to go back to the judge, request that the original divorce degree be reversed and converted to "contested" or whatever, and force her to revisit a few issues relating to the divorce agreement itself. After which, I will gladly RE-divorce her.
People shouldn't lie to judges, and she told a whopper to him and me.
PS: The divorce was granted in January 2009. I found out about the cheating and the plot one month later.