No, , adoption was just a question.. I needed to know my option!, You do not understand the situation, it always so easy to say - she needs a dad! They have NO REALTIONSHIPS!!! So far, my oldest daughter is so stressed, her friends in school have noteced that and told your that she has changed, I'm so glad she is so open with me, My husband never had good connections with her. Both girls are hurt of THIS. I try to understand HOW COME our LAW looks at the children Best interest, Tell me, What benefits are they getting right now where they live with divorcing parents, watching all this, watching me crying, been unhappy, by listening their dad's comment, talk about me, knowing how I feel about him, how he feels about me. He goes on dates, they know that, I have a friend (one!) , they know that,. He interrogates the kids by asking them (actually only youngest one, because the oldest one does not talk to him) questions like " where did you go with mom, who was there with you, was 'X' there, are u telling me the truth, if not, then I'm going to find out and I will not be doing anything with you..." He also tell my oldest daughter things like "Your mom chose her boyfriend over you, sorry!" I'm So close to my girls! They absolutely do not live with him. I talk to them and want to make sure that they should spend time with him as well. I talk to my little one, saying that your dad loves you and he will do everything for you... and more. But she prefers to spend some time with him, not a night with him. After so many conversations with her, I 've explained to her that her life will change and she will be spending her time with him every other weekend and a few nights a week... She seems to be OK with that. BUT- All this will be ok when I can move out with the girls. Now it's horrible! Since he does not sign a PA that was prepared by a mediator and there nothing new there on what we have agreed during those mediations, I can't do a move! How All this is beneficial for my kids! They cry every night! The little one is so afraid to tell thing to her dad that she tells me! Is this Fair to them! Can someone evaluate this situation? And Is there a MAX TIME of period when PA should be signed????? He is so happy for making my life miserable! He sees the girls every night, no scheduled weekends, he pays for the mortg., I pay for all activities, school, food, utillities bills, i pay for family medical ins, now need to pay for summer camps, gifts, clothes. We also have a property in CA, he pays for that and gets rent back. Yes he is "underwater" there for 800 /month. I have offered him to sell it as :"Foreclosure", he does not want it, I have offered him to sell our house and keep it, I need nothing but Wasn't to move out with the girls. I'm not going to seek his child support until we sell those properties. By the way, he is selling our house, He is a realtor (not a full time), he has listed the house. It's been on the market more than 120 days, he does not want to drop the price. People do not come to see it. I do not know why My attorney is not filing a motion yet about this issue, I want to hire an independent agency and be fully aware what's going on. SO, Now he has hired a lawyer who is known as non - rushing one. He does not speed his cases, will be lots of contineueses... It will take forever!!! Can you imagine my life? And you tell me that I want a miserable divorce - NO, you tell me that My daughter need a dad! - yes she needs one, but does she need JUST a dad??? Does she need a support, love, friendship from her dad? If My husband does not let her to go with me to Canada for Memorial Day weekend just because he THINKS that My friend might come with us and she got really upset with that. She is 14!, She understands everything. Why he is punishing her if he is angry with me??? Where is the fairness??? And after all that he tell her that I made a choice - your mom chose him over you" - That's not true!. I'm going with my family, brother's family, cousin's and wanted to take her with me, even knowing that my friend might join us. I was not going to be with him in the same hotel room! Where is the problem??? Again, sorry, you got me! I need a practical advice and find a lawyer who will be helping me by building a tragedy, plans,, what to do to move out. Financial part, I'll be dealing with later! Sorry, can you suggest something? Anybody?
IL, Lake county, Mundelien