False Accusation at work

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Latest post 07-14-2009 2:26 PM by kath21. 28 replies.
  • 07-09-2009 3:21 PM

    • AAElis
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    False Accusation at work

    I gave a poem to a manager at work telling her she was pretty.  The Manager went to the Dept. Manager and demanded that I stay away from her.  The Dept. Manager told me about this and I told him to apologize to her for me and that I give me word to stay away from her.  I kept my word to the letter and never came near her.  The Manager on the other hand kept coming around me everyday giving me dirty looks.  I contacted her via e-mail and asked her to stay away from me and that I never want to talk to her again.  The Manager went to the Director of Human Resources and told him that I had threatened her and that she was now scared of me.  The Director of Human Resources called me into his office and told me that he completely agreed with the manager and that I was a threat.  I asked him to tell me what the threat was, to give specifics of the threat and proof that a threat took place.  The Director ignored what I had to say and escorted me to Security.  Security interrogated me and told me that I am now beyond the Company's Anti-Harassment policies and to not say anything about the Manager again or my future will not be with the company.  I am not a criminal, I have never committed a crime in my life.  The Manager's accusation against me is a complete lie.  The Manager never said what the threat was, never gave any specifics or proof of the threat.  I was forced to work under duress in a hostile working environment where I had not right to voice a concern anymore about the Manager.  After a long time, I could not handle the stress anymore, so I quit the job.  I appreciate all comments on this issue, thank you.

  • 07-09-2009 3:35 PM In reply to

    • Drew
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    Re: False Accusation at work

    You quit---end of issue--no UC



  • 07-09-2009 3:54 PM In reply to

    • AAElis
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    Re: False Accusation at work

    Thank you Drew for commenting on my situation.  I do not care about the UC.  The reason I quit is because even after the Manager falsely accused me of a crime, she never stopped coming around me and giving me dirty looks.  Also, Security constantly would walk by my desk looking at me and I would catch them watching me from a few rows away.  To me this was an attempt at intimidation, or at least to get me to quit, which obviously they were successful at.  Thank you for your time.

  • 07-09-2009 4:00 PM In reply to

    Re: False Accusation at work

    I gave a poem to a manager at work telling her she was pretty.  You may have had good intentions but that was hugely inappropriate.

    The Manager on the other hand kept coming around me everyday giving me dirty looks.  I contacted her via e-mail and asked her to stay away from me and that I never want to talk to her again.  Also completely inappropriate.  You should not have contacted her at all.  You are not in a position to judge whether she felt threatened by your actions.  A lot of women would feel the same way.  For all the manager knew, you were a stalker-in-the-making.

    I was forced to work under duress in a hostile working environment where I had not right to voice a concern anymore about the Manager.  This does not remotely constitute a hostile work environment.

    After a long time, I could not handle the stress anymore, so I quit the job.  Entirely your choice.

    I appreciate all comments on this issue, thank you.  I can only suggest you never repeat anything like this in the workplace again.

     

  • 07-09-2009 4:04 PM In reply to

    • DPH
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    Re: False Accusation at work

    "The Manager on the other hand kept coming around me everyday giving me dirty looks.  I contacted her via e-mail and asked her to stay away from me and that I never want to talk to her again."

    Sounds like 2nd or 3rd grade to me.  Be glad that you're gone.

    "Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience."  -  Mark Twain

     

  • 07-09-2009 4:18 PM In reply to

    Re: False Accusation at work

    DPH, it's entirely possible (if not likely) that this a misguided perception by the OP of why she was in his work area and what her expression was. 

  • 07-09-2009 5:16 PM In reply to

    • AAElis
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    Re: False Accusation at work

    I can't believe you are insinuating that I am a stalker.  When the Manager demanded that I stay away from her, I did exactly just that.  I stayed away from her and never came near her again, period. On the other hand, the Manager never stayed away from me.  The Manager was on another team that is on the other side of the same floor that I was.  There was no reason, work wise, for the Manager to keep coming around me.  I'm sorry, but you are accusing the wrong person of being a stalker.

  • 07-09-2009 5:20 PM In reply to

    You are missing the point

    You were told to have no contact with her.

    If you felt she was behaving unreasonably you should have gone to HR. Instead, you contacted her by e-mail - DIRECTLY violating your instruction.

    The employer would have been within their rights to fire you. However, since you chose to quit, there's no legal issue her at all.

  • 07-09-2009 9:24 PM In reply to

    • cbg
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    Re: False Accusation at work

    No one is saying you WERE a stalker. They are saying that your behavior could have led someone to BELIEVE that you were.

  • 07-09-2009 9:40 PM In reply to

    • AAElis
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    Re: You are missing the point

    I'm sorry but I completely disagree with your entire statement.  Anyway, thank you for taking the time to comment on my situation.

  • 07-09-2009 9:49 PM In reply to

    • AAElis
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    Re: False Accusation at work

    I'm sorry but your statement makes no sense to me because absolutely no crime took place.  I committed no crime whatsoever, therefore, there is no way my behavior can be mistaken for a possible criminal offense because I absolutely committed no crime.  All you are giving me is speculation and assumption, not proof of a crime having taken place.  I was accused of a crime at work and it was a complete false allegation.  Thank you for your time.    

  • 07-09-2009 10:23 PM In reply to

    • cbg
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    Re: False Accusation at work

    No contact means no emails also, not just don't come near her.

    Where is your evidence that she did not CONSIDER you a threat? What proof do you have to offer that she is deliberately and maliciously lying, as opposed to having a different opinion on the subject than you do? What evidence would you use to show that she did not BELIEVE you to be a threat, even if you did not intend one?

  • 07-10-2009 10:20 AM In reply to

    Re: False Accusation at work

    AAElis, you are not paying attention to what I am saying and/or are misinterpreting most everything that has been said. 

    Nobody here has said you committed a crime.  You didn't.   I did not say you were a stalker.  I was explaining from the female manager's point of view how SHE might have interpreted your actions and why she was so distressed by your behavior, as you clearly do not understand why she had a problem with it.

  • 07-10-2009 3:14 PM In reply to

    • AAElis
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    Re: False Accusation at work

    My proof is simple:

    The Manager went to the Director of Human Resources and told him that I had threatened her.  She never said WHAT the threat was, she never gave any specifics or details of the threat, and provided no proof that a threat took place.  When the Director of Human Resources told me that he completely agreed with her, I asked him to tell me WHAT the threat was and he refused to do so, instead, he escorted me to Security so they can interrogated me.  Now, if I called the police and told them that YOU threatened me, what is the first thing you would want to know?  You would want to know WHAT is the threat, specifics and details of the threat and proof that a threat took place. Am I right in the latter?  Thank you for your time.

     

     

  • 07-10-2009 3:16 PM In reply to

    Re: False Accusation at work

    The fact that you would want to know does not mean they violated any laws.

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