I have a six month old daughter with my boyfriend, but I am not allowed to put his name on her birth certificate because I am still legally married to someone else. My problem is that I have been in hiding from my husband for almost five years and I cannot communicate with him to have him sign the papers granting paternity to my boyfriend. I have reason to believe that if my husband found out where I am and if he found out that I have a new family it would put all of us at risk. He is a very dangerous individual and contacting him is not an option for me.
So the state is telling me I have no choice but to put this monster's name on the birth certificate and that her last name has to be his last name, but they also said I could "change it later." However, they are being very vague about what I would need to do in order to change it. They said I might need an attorney, I might have to go through Vital Records, there might be a fee, there might be a notary needed...the list of "mights" goes on and on and, in the end, nobody will give me a straight answer about how to correct this. Nobody knows anything about the legal process I would need to go through; they just keep telling me it's possible.
For the record, my boyfriend knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is the father and is willing to do whatever it takes to prove it. This law is just ridiculous. It affords rights to a man I have been hiding from for years and gives no protection whatsoever to the rightful father.
If anybody knows anything about the procedure that I am going to have to go through I would be very grateful for your insight.