Another thing: my brother and I haven't spoken in 4 years and he and his wife, an attorney have sued both myself and my wife in an attempt to get us disinherited in the eyes of my mother. Their claims and case are baseless.
My brother and sister-in-law are purposefully keeping me away from my mother. This has become obvious to all involved now. They are apparently influencing and/or threatening the nursing home admin staff. Recently flowers sent to my mother had the card removed as if I had never sent them. When I called my mother to confirm, this is what she said: "everyone sent flowers EXCEPT YOU". Apparently, my brother took credit for the flowers that I had paid for. Unfortunately for him, 1-800-flowers has a complete transcript of the delivery and receipt of the flowers....and I am getting this in digital format.
Finally: wouldn't the nursing home already have a pre-printed document just for this purpose ?
I mean, wow, my mother can hardly write, let alone type a memo ! I am going to contact the DON at the nursing home tomorrow and ask her why she can't just give my mother a document to sign. If she does not or will not, I'm going to file a complaint with our state:
Stay away from those who make the bad guys look good, and the good guys look bad.