Oh, Drew--you're right on target with this dude. I could tell you stories of the advantages he has taken in the last years that would make your head spin. The best one of all? I was there to visit her on March 9th. She was taken to the ER on the 24th, and stayed in hosp for a week. She had stopped eating/swallowing. So basically they treat her for dehydration, etc---tell the step-idiot she was "beginning the process" of dying. So step-idiot has them move her back to the NH on "comfort measures" (ie morphine, etc). She stayed on "comfort measures" for 14 days and then passed.
Do you think as her son and me as her daughter, that I ever got a phone call? Do you think he had the nurses call me? Do you think I got a letter, e-mail, message at husband's work? NO. NOTHING.
She died and do you know how I found out? By a message on a popular website where people network...like photo book. Yeah. I got a PM saying, "So sorry to hear about XXX but I'm sure heaven is the high life for her. And I'll see you at the services tomorrow and Saturday!"
So THAT is how I found out my heartbeat had stopped. She was my heartbeat. I found out about her passing from a website!! The day before the services!! And now I'm dealing with this... and why? All because of a self-centered, greedy, calculating THIEF. He was never planning on telling me. He was going to let me drive 300 miles the next month to find out from a nurse she was already dead & buried. He was PLANNING on being the center of attention at the visitation and telling people that I never cared, too. FAIL.
Now, how much do you want to bet he's already filed? *insert low eyelids and flattened lips here* Every step he/they have taken has been to make it all their game. They had no idea she had made that will to me--and if they did know--they did what they did thinking they would win and are now thinking they have already won the pot. They truly have no clue I'm coming, and they MAY be able to make it appear as if they've spent every dime the right way (on her) but something tells me to keep at this. Something tells me they thought the DPOA was a ticket to ride and they've not kept good records. I'm just sayin'.
I do thank you all very much for your guidance here. This has been so helpful and I appreciate y'all!